The adventures of a Stay at Home Mum

Motherhood...

2011-05-09T20:30:00.000-07:00

I love being a mum. There is nothing like those delicious little kisses and cuddles each day. I actually enjoy making school lunches and helping out with reading. I love play dates and visits to the park. My beautiful boys are the reason I get up each morning and my last thought each night. We had such a lovely Mother's Day last weekend. The older boys had made some careful purchases at the school Mother's Day stall and they were so excited to give them to me on Sunday morning. Jack was of course oblivious to the proceedings but he like sharing the chocolate and the fun. Then it was time to head to the local playground with Grandad for a BBQ and a relaxing afternoon. It was just a lovely day, very relaxing and the perfect way to celebrate being a mum.

It was a long and torturous road to get here. More than 10 years of fertility treatments. Wondering if I would ever hear the precious words "love you Mum". Then the very early arrival of Mitch and Harry. Months of gut wrenching fear - would they survive, would they be badly affected by their prematurity... what would the future hold for us all. Then when life seemed settled and we were happy with life with our beautiful young men, an unexpected surprise - our Jack! A surprise pregnancy just after I turned 40 years old. I have honestly never liked surprises, but this was wonderful. A precious baby boy who made our family complete.

So as you can imagine Mother's Day has a very special meaning for me. And it makes me very grateful for how far Kevin and I have come. We are the proud parents of three gorgeous, loving little boys. And we have achieved what we once thought was out of our grasp...

Happy Mother's Day (belated I know) to all the mums out there - may your days be filled with cuddles and kisses and precious handmade gifts,
Live Lisa xx

Immunisation - what to do...

2011-04-25T11:42:00.000-07:00

As the mum of three small boys I consider one of my greatest roles to be their advocate. This is particularly pertinent in medical decision-making. When Mitch and Harry were almost ready to leave the confines of the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit we were advised to have them immunised. In their case they were to be given smaller more frequent doses. Before agreeing to this I had time to think about the implications of vaccinations for my little men. To be honest the thought of injecting a foreign substance into their tiny bodies were pretty daunting. At this time Andrew Wakefield was extremely vocal with his belief that the MMR vaccine caused Autism in a small percentage of the population. And he had many passionate supporters. Here was a man who was stating that there was a definitive cause of Autism and it was caused by vaccinating your child. This raised a lot of questions for many parents...

Fortunately we did not need to make a decision about MMR at this stage (this is first given at 2 years of age in Australia), but it made me consider the other immunisations that were available. I only needed to look back a generation to get some answers. Both of my parents lived through the polio epidemics which swept through Australia from the 1930s until the 1960s. Over 40,000 people were affected with actual figures believed to be more than 100 times greater. My Dad recalled children leaving school and either returning with a lifelong disability or not at all, in fact Polio affected his family. Following the advent of the Salk, then Sabin Vaccines Poliomyelitis was eradicated from Australia in 2000. Several cases brought into Australia have not been able to spread due to the herd immunity in our country.

Other illnesses like Varicella (Chicken Pox), Pertussis (Whooping Cough) and Meningoccocal Type C are now either prevented or the effects greatly reduced by an immunisation program. All of which sounded to me like a very good reason to immunise my boys. BUT there were also the risks to consider and if my Google searches were to be believed then these were significant.

A quick online search revealed story after story of adverse reactions to immunisations. Countless organisations advocating the non-immunisation of children. Even books and TV shows discussing the decision to immunise. For a new parent it was very confusing. And in a lot of ways it continues to be so.

I focussed on the facts and figures regarding the benefits of immunisations, although it was often difficult to tease out the information and to establish if it was a verifiable source. Here is some of the information I obtained...

Diphtheria is an acute illness caused by the bacterium Corynebacterium diphtheriae. Toxins produced by the bacteria affect the respiratory tract, nervous system, adrenal gland and heart muscle cells. Diphtheria is spread by droplets or direct contact with wounds and materials soiled by infected persons. The disease can be fatal - between 5% and 10% of diphtheria patients die, even if properly treated. Untreated, the disease claims even more lives. In the early 1900s, diphtheria caused more deaths in Australia than any other infectious disease, but increasing use of diphtheria vaccines since World War II has led to its virtual disappearance. Perhaps, unsurprisngly Diptheria immunisation rates have fallen with an alarming case recently of a 22 year old Australia woman dying of Diptheria this year.

Pertussis (whooping cough) is caused by the bacterium Bordetella pertussis. The disease is highly infectious and most serious in babies. Babies are at greatest risk of infection until they can have at least two doses of the vaccine (minimum 4 months old) as the mother’s antibodies do not provide reliable protection. It is spread through droplets in the air and apnoea, seizures and encephalopathy may occur in very severe cases. Infants aged less than six months and adults often do not have the characteristic whoop. Paroxysms frequently end with the expulsion of clear, tenacious mucus. This is often followed by vomiting. Pneumonia is the most common cause of death. Fatal encephalopathy, which is probably hypoxic, and severe weakness from repeated vomiting, occasionally occur. The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that in 2008, about 16 million cases of pertussis occurred worldwide, 95% of which were in developing countries, and that about 195 000 children died from the disease. Global immunisation programs were estimated to have averted about 687 000 deaths. Australia is currently experiencing a Whooping Cough epidemic and the concern is that with unprotected infants and a poorly immunised adult population the incidence of neonatal death will increase.

Tetanus (lock-jaw) is a disease caused by the bacteria Cilostridium tetani. Toxin made by the bacteria attacks a person's nervous system. Although the disease is fairly uncommon now, it can be fatal. Early symptoms of tetanus include - painful muscle spasms that begin in the jaw; stiff neck, shoulder and back muscles; difficulty swallowing; violent generalized muscle spasms; convulsions and breathing difficulties. Complications include pneumonia, broken bones (from the muscle spasms), respiratory failure and cardiac arrest. Few people in Australia get tetanus because of the protection given by immunisation but tetanus kills many hundreds of thousands of people world wide every year, many of them very young babies.

It is a difficult decision for many parents. There are so many opinions that it can be difficult to know which way to turn. For me the decision comes down to this - that since the advent of immunisation programs for a wide range of previously fatal diseases there has been a dramtatic drop in the incidences of these diseases. All immunisations have the potential for adverse reactions and we all need to be mindful of this, but the alternative can be far worse.

I am interested to hear what others think...

Kind regards,
Lisa xx

The joys of motherhood? or when other mothers attack!

2011-04-09T16:49:00.000-07:00

Recently there has been a lot of media space dedicated to an attack on one of Australia's radio personalities (for want of a better term). Personally I don't listen to her or her program, but I was interested to read the vitriol which spewed forth when she was photographed walking and bottle feeding her six week old baby. Pru Goward (the incoming NSW Minister for Families) weighed into the debate likening her behaviour to the actions of Michael Jackson when he dangled his baby over a balcony. Many mothers were outraged by her comments and it got me to thinking about how quick we are to judge the actions of other parents (in particular mothers).

Many moons ago before I had children I thought I knew what parenting was all about! I am embarrassed to admit that I was free with my opinions and I am only grateful my friends didn't slap me down to size (like I deserved). I would look at children in supermarkets and wonder why their parents didn't have them under control - if I had children they would know how to behave in public. I would watch parents bargain and bribe their children out of sheer desperation - if I had children they would know who was boss. I would hear my friends complain about how exhausted they were and I would think that in their day they must have plenty of time to rest when the children were resting...

THEN I had children of my own and I quickly discovered one of the best kept secrets of all - parenting for the most part is winging it! Making it up as you go along and hoping that you don't scar your precious child and turn them into to a sociopath. Some days you get up and feel like an earth mother - calm and in charge. On other days you cower under the covers wishing someone would take away those horrible kids who are demanding to be fed. Parenting is NEVER straight forward or easy. When people comment on how well I manage my three boys I usually tell them I am like a duck, all serene on the surface, but paddling like hell underneath to keep everyone afloat!

So why do we feel it is okay to judge another mother? Is it because in pulling someone else down we feel better about ourselves? Or is it because it is somehow seen as a rite of passage, something that happened to us and we will do it to others? All I know is that it is the hardest job I have ever done. Full of rewards, but bone tiringly exhausting and never-ending. So the kind comment another mum makes about my boys or my parenting is much welcomed. Maybe we could all try to be a little gentler towards each other. And understand that for the majority of us, we want nothing more than to do a good job and raise our precious children in a loving home.

Now excuse me, but I have been hiding from my kids for long enough (in the computer room) I better go in and try to be an earth mother or at least find some clean clothes for them to wear...

Warm regards,
Lisa xx

Worth a read...

2011-04-06T11:30:00.000-07:00

An interesting read on the consumer push for lower prices at the expense of the small retailer and quality...

Cullen of Adelaide: We DROVE the prices and the quality down: "In a recent discussion over the Harvey Norman issue I'd received an alternative point of view. Gerry Harvey has done himself unspeakable da..."

Ahh the joys of being a domestic goddess...

2011-04-05T04:44:00.000-07:00

Is it just me or do other stay at home mums find some days...weeks...months are kinda like Groundhog Day? I seems like a dozen times a day I call out "please flush the toilet" - seriously do my boys imagine that what they have produced is so precious others will want to view it? And what about getting ready for school? Every morning I have to remind Mitchell to put on his glasses and if he forgets somehow it is my fault! And then when we get home I seem to repeat the sentences over and over.

Now please don't get me wrong, I love being a Mum. BUT sometimes it all gets a bit same-same. Of course there are lots of compensations. There is nothing as sweet as those cuddles and kisses first thing of the morning. Or the precious little cards or drawings that cover our fridge. And I adore watching those precious little men sleeping at night.

But just for once it would be nice to wake up and discover the boys all ready for school and eating breakfast. And no arguments in the car! And rushing inside to start their reading. And a dream, just a dream would be if the three boys happily went to bed and to sleep without reprimands or raised voices. See I am not that unrealistic am I?? (grin)

Here's to parents and carers who day in and day out care for our precious little people and try to do their best...

Hugs,
Lisa xx

The house hunt continues...

2011-03-20T17:25:00.000-07:00

"Oh No" I hear you say. Yes, its true unfortunately. We thought we were going ahead with that beautiful home, but it wasn't to be... and frankly I am sick of living in a packed up house!!! Our house is still on the market and we are currently back to weekends looking through houses. It means a mad dash as we clean our home, whilst rounding up the three boys. "Don't use the toilet its finally clean" " Stop touching the surfaces" "Please don't touch the books and toys Mummy finally got it tidy". And yes it is as relaxing as it sounds (eye roll).

And I have to confess that some of the houses we have seen have been gag-worthy! Seriously, if you are selling your home, then the odour of cat urine is not a selling point, neither is a table heavily encrusted with food. And that was in the same house and a very new home too. I know that not all people are quite as obsessive as me, but a bit of spray and wipe does wonders.

Some of the homes have been lovely though. And I hope that anyone who visits our home sees that although it has a dated kitchen and bathroom, it is much loved and well maintained. It is kind of confronting to know that people will be traipsing through our family home saying (probably) the same things I say... "Why would they paint it that colour" "God what awful tiles" "Would have been lovely if they mopped the floor"...

Oh well will keep you posted - hopefully next post will be a more positive one...

Hugs,
Lisa
xx

Moving home...

2011-03-08T16:55:00.000-08:00

Well soonly we could be on the move. For the past 8 months or so we have been house hunting and we have finally found a place that we BOTH like! It is a beautiful home and would be a wonderful place to raise our boys. So now we have decluttered our current home and are open for inspection this Sunday. It is a bitter sweet time packing up and planning to leave our home. The home that we brought our three boys home to and the home where we started life as a couple. BUT it is also exciting to plan the next stage of our life and know that very soon the boys will each have their own rooms and a bit more space. Fingers crossed it all goes well.

Lisa xx

Argggghhhhhh - stop the world I want to get off!

2011-02-08T02:33:00.000-08:00

Why is it that some days which start so beautifully unravel so horribly? Today I had a lovely day out with a good friend (thanks Jenn)and picked up a few bits and pieces and then headed off to pick up Mitch and Harry. And then at bedtime it all went awry. Mummy was clearly being mean when she suggested that 7.30pm was bedtime. Mitch started screaming that he hated me and Harry threw himself on the floor and howled. Thankfully this burst of angst caused them to fall asleep in record time. And as I collapsed onto the lounge and watched The Rafters being a happy family I wondered (not for the first time) why our lives couldn't be so simple?

I suppose this is REAL life. Not the made for television sanitised version. Sometimes we fight, yell and scream. Sometimes we hurt each other. And sometimes we feel exhausted and overwhelmed. BUT how amazing is family? Regardless of where we go and what we do they are there for us (if we are truly fortunate). So tomorrow morning I will get up and do it all again - and hopefully tomorrow will be a bit more like the Rafters :-)

Lisa xx

Gratitude - day seven (but a very late post)

2011-01-28T12:01:00.001-08:00

Well finally I am getting around to finishing my gratitude journal. And you guessed it - I am grateful for my three beautiful boys. Somehow after years of infertility I am lucky enough to be the mum of three beautiful boys - Mitchell Steven, Harrison Adam and Jackson Kevin. All totally different and all a blessing in their own way.

Mitchell is the smoocher. He loves nothing more than to cuddle and kiss. On a rough day (and who doesn't have those) he is the first one to come over and climb on my lap and tell me that he loves me. BUT don't get me wrong he is an equal opportunity cuddler and will happily give cuddles to the mums at school and even to strangers at times. He loves jarmie days and playing with his trains. He loves going out for coffee and spending time alone with either Kev or me. We call him Grandpa Simpson beecause he loves to tell stories which never seem to end or have much point to them. Mitchell is a blessing in our lives. He shows us daily that even when things are tough to do a positive attitude goes a very long way.

Harrison (or Harry as everyone calls him) is a thinker. He wants to understand the world and sometimes seems to pick the most inopportune time to ask questions - usually whilst I taking something out of the oven or changing Jack! He is also less outgoing than Mitch, but once you win his heart he is yours forever. He loves bike riding especially with his Grandad and loves to play games with his Dad. He loves the computer and his DS. He is a wonderful big brother to Jack and loves making him laugh. He is happy to play with Jack for hours and then pack up the mess. He is my little shadow and some would say my clone (grin). Harry amazes us every day with how far he has come in such a short time. We are so proud of all of his hardwork at school and the friends he has made.

Jackson (or Jack) is our little clown. He will happily blow raspberries or jump up and down if it gets a laugh. Being the baby of the family he expects and demands attention. He loves cuddles. He also loves puppies - his favourite words are "puppy", "Mum", "Dad" and "happy". He is our happy boy. Jack shows us how the biggest surprises can be the most delightful!

So that's it for my gratitude journal. In a small way it has helped me clarify what is wonderful about my life and in turn what I need to appreciate more. Hope your life is full of good things too,

Lisa xx

Gratitude - day six...

2011-01-24T00:09:00.001-08:00

Observant readers may notice that I hadn't posted a message for well over 24 hours... and there is a reason. The past few days I have been staying in Victor Harbor with my Dad (and Mitch & Jack). Victor is a beautiful seaside town about an hour's drive from Adelaide. It has lovely beaches, great restaurants and lots of things to see and do. Now that Dad has moved here we have a good excuse for visiting often.

And how does that relate to my gratitude journal? Well I am grateful for time to just relax and be. This doesn't happen all that often, but when it does I relish it. I remember reading once that "taking time to do nothing is never wasted time". BUT it is hard to remember it when life seems to be a series of deadlines, jobs to be completed and places to be. And being the kind of person I am, it is often difficult to prioritise relaxation, before the household chores or whatever "job" I think needs to be done.

So I am grateful for the opportunity to relax, to sip a glass of wine, read a good book or doze in a comfortable armchair. It is times like these that I am reminded of just how good life can be.

Hope you manage to find a little piece of heaven too,
Lisa xx

Gratitude - day five

2011-01-22T02:15:00.000-08:00

I am grateful for my home. That might seem a bit funny, especially since we are looking for a new home. But recently I listened to a radio program in which they discussed homelessness in South Australia and particularly Adelaide. They estimated that there were more than 230 homeless families with children currently residing in Adelaide. These families were often reluctant to seek help, as they were fearful of having their children taken away. The radio article commented on how homelessness impacted on everything in a child's life - and would impact on their adult life too. How is it that we live in such an affluent society, but we have children living in cars or in parks? Having cared for homeless people as a nurse, I understand that some individuals remain homeless due to addictions or mental illness and that even with the best intentions in the world they are unable to be housed. BUT children? What choice do they have?

That got me thinking about my boys and our living situation. Sure our home is a bit cramped, but it is comfortable and clean. We live in a nice neighbourhood and are fortunate to have good neighbours. It will be great when we find a new home, which gives us a little more room to move. However our family doesn't have to wonder where they will sleep each night or whether they will be safe. Our little home is a haven away from the worries of the world. So I am grateful for our home.

Hope you have your own little haven too,
Love
Lisa xx

Gratitude - day four...

2011-01-21T04:28:00.000-08:00

I am grateful for my parents. My Mum and Dad raised us in a loving home and we had no doubt how special they thought we were to them. Although it has been more than four years since my beautiful mum died, I feel her touch in a lot that I do. Sometimes I miss her so much that there is a physical pain. Every day I wish she was here. And sometimes the need to talk with her is almost unbearable. My Mum taught me what it is to be a Mum and I would love her to be able to experience the joy our three little men bring. She was so thrilled to be a Gran and was so excited awaiting the pending birth of my nephew Liam. I am so grateful to have had a loving and close relationship with her. And my Dad despite his obvious grief at the death of my Mum continues to be an important part of my life. No matter what time of day he is always ready for a chat and some words of advice. The boys adore him and so do Kev and I.

I am grateful for my brother, sister-in-law and my beautiful nephew. Adam, Kelly and Liam are a loving family and I grateful to have them in my life and the lives of our boys. Although I know Adam gets sick of the childhood "Adam stories" - he puts up with my reminiscences and good-nature jibes. I can't remember a time when Adam and I haven't been friends. We even lived together for a while as adults! And if he could tolerate my cleaning obsession then he must be made of strong stuff. And soon there will be a precious little addition to their family - can't wait :-)

And I am grateful for my extended family. Although we may not see each other very often I always enjoy spending time with them. Having a relatively large extended family has been a bit of a steep learning curve for Kev, as most of his family lives overseas (his Mum & Dad are in Queensland). I especially love when the cousins get together. Now we have grown up and have families of our own it is a double blessing to see our children playing together. And I enjoy seeing my Aunties and Uncles too. They have been an especially important part of my life since Mum died and I am grateful for their wise counsel and understanding.

And I am so grateful for Kev's Mum and Dad. Norm and Iris have accepted me into their home and their family. They live too far away and we don't get to see them often enough, but when we do its like no time has passed at all. They are wonderful grandparents and so loving towards me.

So you see I have a LOT to be grateful for and as I head off to bed I am reminded just how lucky I am,

Lisa xx

Gratitude - day three...

2011-01-20T06:17:00.000-08:00

I am grateful for my friends. I heard it once said that you have a friend for a reason, a season or for life. And I can certainly relate to that. I have had friends who have seen me through my darkest hours and highest of highs, I have had friends for certain periods of my life. And then friends who are stuck with me for life. And for each of those friends I am indeed grateful.

Its funny how no matter how special our friends are, we often fail to tell them. We are often more comfortable sharing our feelings with people who are merely acquaintances. I suppose that part of the reason is that we get so busy with our lives and the time just slips away before we realise it. But aren't those close to us the most deserving of our love and honesty? So if I have one New Year's resolution it is to make sure I tell my friends how much they mean to me.

With much love,
Lisa xx

Gratitude - day two...

2011-01-19T03:49:00.000-08:00

I am grateful that my family and I live in Australia! And probably more to the point that we live in South Australia. SA is a hidden gem - beautiful beaches, Mediterranean climate, fantastic wineries and restaurants, and a city which is easy to get around (on most days).

I am reminded daily of just how beautiful this place is when I drive a short distance from home and stretched out before me are the magnificent vineyards of the Barossa. A community settled in part by people who were fleeing religious persecution in their homeland of Germany (formerly Prussia). They came to our country seeking a new life and as a consequence brought their knowledge of viticulture which is now an integral aspect of our lives here in SA. Now a trip to SA wouldn't be the same without sampling our local wines.

Our beaches are wonderful. And there is something so soothing about walking for miles along a deserted beach. Withing a short drive from the centre of Adelaide (or a slightly longer tram ride) you can be at the beach - enjoying a swim, sunbathing or taking a walk.

Our scenery is breathtaking. Whether you explore the Great Australian Bight, The Flinders Ranges or The Murray River there are wonderful photo opportunities everywhere. Sometimes it is easy to drive past in a flurry and fail to take it all in, but it IS there waiting to be discovered.

Yes, living in South Australia is something I am very grateful for (although not as often as I should be). So my plan this weekend? Enjoy some of the fruits of the vine, take a walk along a beach and take the time to explore my little corner of the world.

Thanks for reading,
Lisa xx

Gratitude journal - day one...

2011-01-17T23:23:00.000-08:00

I wanted to concentrate on all the good things I have in my life - the wonderful friends and family, the great places I have been and also the simple pleasures of my life. And I couldn't go past mentioning my beautiful husband Kevin. Most of you probably know that Kev and I met after he responded to an ad I placed in the Connections section of the local Sunday paper. That was 17 years ago this April. He was one of over 200 respondents and he was my 17th date (I am nothing if not persistent!). I first met him when he came to my place for a coffee - not the wisest thing to do, but my brother Adam was lurking in the background. He knocked on the door and Adam welcomed him and handed him a beer. Kev said later that he was desperately hoping he was at the right house (grin). We chatted for a few hours and I headed off to a nursing night shift. After that it was just one of those things. We kept ringing each other and catching up and six months later we were living together. He was nothing like the man I imagine I would spend my life with, but at the same time he was everything I needed. He was (and is) calm, kind and genuine. There is no pretence. He says what he means and doesn't tend to sugarcoat things. Most of all he loved me for all my faults and foibles - he never (and has never) asked me to change and he wanted the same things from life that I did (and still does).

17 years later I consider myself very lucky to have such a good man in my life. He loves our boys and is an active part of their lives. He loves my family and although he would happily spend most of his time at home, is happy to come to family get togethers with me. He is a good provider. And most of all he is my safe place in the world.

I am forever grateful for having Kevin in my life...

Thanks for reading,
Lisa xx

Gratitude...

2011-01-16T21:51:00.000-08:00

Today I was thinking about how life can be altered irrevocably in a heartbeat. The Queensland floods have had a devastating effect on so many families - homes have been washed away, businesses destroyed and worst of all lives have been lost. And as the death toll slowly rises, it is the individual stories which have moved us and made this awful event all the more real.

The other morning I read of the desperate struggle of pregnant mother Stacey Keep to save her three young children from the flash flood that swept through their home. She was swept onto a railway track whilst clinging onto her 23 month old baby girl Jessica, but the little girl was torn from her arms by the current and is presumed drowned. Her husband Matthew tried to keep two of their children above the flood waters, but they were all swept out of the house. He somehow managed to find some roofing to cling to and was rescued down stream. Maddison (5) and Jacob (4) were saved by their grandmother Pauline, but she then drowned. And the children's other grandmother is also presumed drowned. The toll on this one family alone is just dreadful.

As I read their story the tears fell. I could not imagine what they were going through and it made me pause for a moment and think of all I have to be grateful for in my life. A friend posted on Facebook the other day about how the act of cleaning out her fridge made her realise how lucky she was to have a fridge and electricity. And so this got me thinking about gratitude (and my lack of it). Seems I am all too ready to complain about things, but expressing thankfulness falls way behind. So my challenge this week is to blog about those things (big and small) which I am grateful for in my life.

Maybe you might like to share your blessing too,
With much love,
Lisa xx

Merry Xmas and a Happy New Year from Australia...

2010-12-29T22:11:00.000-08:00

Well 2011 is almost upon us and the festive season is in full swing. Here in Australia we are experiencing devastating floods and ferocious bush fires - such extremes of nature. And although it seems trite I find myself thinking back over the past year. There have been highlights and lowlights and lots in between.

The boys enjoyed their first year of school and by all accounts it was a huge success. They surprised me though, because Harrison was the one with the glowing report. Seems he IS able to stop talking when he tries and he has worked hard on concentrating in class and is a kind classmate. Mitchell is a social butterfly (no surprises there) and needs to work on his organisational abilities, but he is reading extremely well and enjoys maths. We have been blessed with wonderful teachers and great SSOs who have made this past year such a special time. Lets hope 2011 is just as successful.

Jackson has been a joy - he is a happy boy and loves cuddles and food (but not necessarily in that order). He isn't walking yet... but will be soon. He is loving having the big boys at home and falls into an exhausted sleep at 7pm, usually only stirring the next morning. He has started playgroup which has been a lot of fun. He is growing like a weed! Now in size 1 and threatening to burst out of some of his cute clothes. He goes swimming once a week and loves the water. It is hard to believe he is only 15 months old as it seems like he has been part of our family forever.

Kev is still at Air Movements and doing reserve work in Aviation Medicine. He works with a great bunch and we had two Xmas parties to enjoy. He is still an avid gamer, but family commitments don't allow as much time for him to enjoy his hobby - nevertheless he seems to sneak in the odd game purchase here and there (grin). He is due to go away to the USA for 6 weeks mid year if it all works out - was initially hoping we would come too, but that has had to be shelved as we look for a new home.

I am busy with the three boys and looking after our home. Life is never dull, but it IS tiring. Now and then I think this "job" would be far easier if I was 20 years younger! I try to do a bit of scrapbooking, but haven't got the motivation at present. I have a lovely group of friends in SA and with a bit more organisation and planning (on my part) I hope to see them a bit more often. I have managed to get away for one weekend this year with some friends which was lovely... must do that more often.

YES! We are STILL househunting! It is not nearly as much fun as you would imagine. After all three little boys do not want to be dragged around looking at houses. Mitch said yesterday "Mum when are you buying us a house"... to which the only response could be "when Daddy lets me" (grin). We are finding it hard to agree on a place to live, mainly I think because I am keen for a fairly new home or a well renovated old home and Kev is more set on the suburb he wants to live in. Nevertheless we will persist (groan).

The big news in our extended family is the imminent arrival of our beautiful niece - due in approx 6 weeks. Can't wait to have an excuse to peruse the pink aisle at the local shops. Hoping that she doesn't make an early arrival and behaves for her Mum & Dad and big brother Liam.

Apart from that we have just returned from seeing Kev's parents in Queensland. Yes, apparently Queensland is beautiful one day and perfect the next... but NOT when we decide to visit and the region experiences the worst floods in 140 years!!! We spent most of the week inside, venturing out for the occasional swim or to brave the shops, but we had fun. Thankfully the boys received a Nintendo DS each for Xmas and so were happily occupied for many hours. They also loved seeing their Nana and Grandpa. We were joined on the adventure by my Dad and our dear friend Pat. To say it was an interesting time was an understatement. Up until the morning of our departure we were unsure if we would be able to get through to the airport (a 5 hour drive south), but we managed to get there and with plenty of time. Now the post holiday washing and cleaning begins... oh joy.

Well I must get back to the chores - wishing you all the best for the festive season and hoping the New Year will be a time of blessings.

Love Lisa
xx

Its beginning to look a lot like Xmas...

2010-12-06T17:31:00.000-08:00

Hasn't the year flown by? Ours sure has - with school for the older two and our little man becoming more and more independent as each day passes. I find it hard to imagine a time in which every waking thought wasn't about snacks for lunchboxes, healthy meals and readers, even though it was only a few years ago.

Mitch & Harry are loving school, although we are all looking forward to school holidays at the moment. We should find out what classes they are in tomorrow and their final school report should come home too. They love reading (especially Mitch) and they have made lots of friends too.

Jack is cruising the furniture, but hasn't tried walking yet. There are too many things for him to do and he needs to beat his big brothers to the toys! He LOVES food, but has taken to spitting anything out he doesn't fancy, which often causes shouts of dismay as he sprays Kev or I with food. He is a fruit fiend and wants bananas all of the time. He loves his big brothers and they adore him back.

We are still on the hunt for a house. It is draining, but hopefully we will find something soon. Its not that we are particularly fussy, its just that we need room for a games/ craft room and so that is limiting our choices somewhat. Apart from that life is busy, but happy.

Well, I better go and write some more cards... seems the list grows each year :-)

Wishing everyone the best of the festive season,

Lisa xx

Hello again...

2010-11-22T16:31:00.000-08:00

Okay okay - so every few months I tentatively venture back to this blog and make myslef a promise that I will try to update it more often... and then life happens! So here I am again (a bit embarrassed) and I am hoping to be a bit more conscientious.

This is a quick update as I have a load of things to do whilst Master Jackson sleeps. Jack is now 14 months old and is crusing the furniture, babbling away and loving nearly every food group. He is a good sleeper - usually one long nap a day and then off to bed by 7pm and awake at 6.30am. He adores his big brothers and loves to destroy their lego creations.

Mitch is doing well at school. He is reading well and is still charming nearly everyone he meets. He has lots of friends and has enjoyed a few classmates' birthday parties in the past few months. He loves drawing and invariably brings home 10 drawings which all must be put on the fridge.

Harry is also enjoying school. He finds reading a bit harder, but is doing well with Maths and Spelling. He has been slower to make friends, but has some strong friendships with some boys in his class and has been to lots of parties. He is still computer obsessed and longs for the day when a Nintendo DS will be finally a reality.

Kev is still working at Air Movements as well as doing Reserve work. He has packed up most of his games in the hope that we may find a house to move into (6 long moths and still looking). He is due to head OS next year with work.

I have just returned from a lovely girls' weekend away and it is back to the grind (grin).

So that's about it in our little neck of the woods. Hope this finds our friends and family well.
AND hope to be back soon :-)

Lisa xx

Jackson turns one...

2010-10-03T07:54:00.000-07:00

It is hard to believe that our beautiful Jackson Kevin Reid is now 12 months old! In so many ways it just seems a moment ago that he arrived and in other ways he has been in our lives for so very long. We are so blessed to have him in our lives.

As is the usual practice in our family there isn't simply one celebration for his birthday... there are three! Firstly he has a picnic lunch at the local park. He loved sitting on the picnic rug and indulging in all kids of yummy things. He also got his first taste of cupcakes (thanks Mandy) which he loved. Then this past weekend we all travelled to my Dad's place at the beach and had a family birthday. It wasa great to connect with our extended family and spend time with Adam, Kelly and Liam, as well as Dad. The boys love going to Grandad's place and especially like spending time with their cousin Liam. It reminds me a lot of when I was a child and we used to go to my Nana and Grandad's home and we would get to play with our cousins while the adults caught up. The boys were sad to leave, but enjoyed a brief catch up with Greg, Kelly, Kylee and Mark and their children at the playground for fish and chips. AND then this Saturday the birthday boy is having a little morning tea at another playground...

So after all those celebrations it will be almost time for the big boys to head back to school and for Jack and Mummy to get back into their routine. I love school holidays - the sleep ins (well when Harry doesn't climb into my bed at 5am), the jarmie days and the days at the park. I just hope when my little men look back they love them as much as I did :-)

Love to all,

Lisa xx

Okay - so I am very slack!

2010-09-18T20:47:00.000-07:00

Okay - so I am very slack - it has been almost 2 months since I last posted a message. Not that imagine people have been waiting breathlessly for an update. BUT on the off chance that anyone does read this or actually care about what I have written I should probably try and explain (grin).

The past 2 months have been hectic. We have had the stupendous occasion of Mitch & Harry's 6th birthday celebrations which culminated with a bowling party at the local bowling alley. Mitch won which he endlessly announced in the car on the ride home and which caused Harry to burst into a flood of tears.

And then we made the difficult decision to look for a new home. We love our house, but it is simply bursting at the seams with the five of us, so we decided a change was needed. That is easier said than done. Anyone who has shopped for a new home would realise just how misleading the ads and pictures of the properties often can be. Seriously, real estate agents must go to a special class to learn how to sail so close to the edge when it comes to honesty. A three bedroom home with a closet - becomes "a spacious 4 bedroom home" - if one of your children is happy to sleep standing up. A tiny block becomes "great for children" - if they remained the size of four year old forever. And a home with a dated kitchen becomes a "delightful centre of the home" - if you are happy to endure the lime laminex and orange wall paper. So sufficed to say we are STILL looking. Will keep you posted.

Apart from that we are preparing for Jack's first birthday. He is such a happy baby and adores his brothers. His latest trick is clapping hands and chattering away. Mummy has been very mean and made the dummy (pacifier) just for sleep time, so he has discovered his voice. Even though you can't understand what he is saying, he has such a conversational tone that it makes me think he really knows what he is talking about. He also loves swimming and when you count to three he closes his eyes in preparation for going under the water which he does with ease.

Well better fly as we are heading out for some more house inspections.

Will try and get back to post some pictures very soon,

Love to all,

Lisa xx

Just had to share this photo

2010-07-22T06:23:00.001-07:00

I couldn't resist sharing this photo...

Just one of those moments when you grab the camera and everything comes together :-)

Hugs,

Lisa xx

School Holidays...

2010-07-10T22:54:00.000-07:00

I LOVE school holidays - no early morning rush, lots of jarmie time and time to create special memories with my beautiful boys. I remember my Mum telling me how much she enjoyed holidays too and now I understand why. The first four days of our holidays were a write off as poor Mitch was diagnosed with Slap Cheek and so just to be on the safe side we stayed at home. I have a sneaking suspicion that Jack probably had it first, but at the time I just thought he had red cheeks from the cold. I thought Mitch's heart may break in two when I explained to him that we couldn't go out for 4 days and that meant not seeing his friends. BUT he bravely coped and then ended up really enjoying himself.

We have had lots of free time. I don't know about anyone else but my boys love the opportunity to kick back and watch a DVD or just muck about with their toys. I try to make sure we have lots of downtime, but sometimes in a effort to fit it all in we end up rushing about. So this holidays I actually scheduled days at home (I know that probably sounds strange) so that we could ensure time at home and lots of rest. It has worked really well and I think I will do that on our next school holidays.

Probably the highlight for the older boys was going to see Toy Story 3 with their Dad. Jack and I went to the gym and then did some errands while waiting for them. Then we all went out for lunch. As luck would have it the hotel had free face painting and so a very tired, but happy Spiderman and Pirate came home with us.

This holidays has also marked our fourth year without Mum. In some ways it is hard to believe it has been so long, but in other ways it seems far longer. Mum would have loved the holiday times - I still have very clear memories of trips to the Parklands with Mum to meet up with friends for a play date and I suppose that is one of the reasons I enjoy doing the same kind of things with my boys. My Mum loved being a mum - yes, I know that many mums do, but she really did and would often tell us how being a mum was her favourite thing in the entire world. I only hope I can be half the mum she was and create such loving warm memories for my own dear boys.

Apart from that we have been trying to get a bit of maintenance done around the house and are in the throes of looking at getting an extension built. Since it was never in our plans (or dreams) that we would have 3 children we now find ourselves a bit squeezed for space. So we are weighing up between building up and increasing our living space or moving altogether. Our main concern is that we don't want to be weighed down with a large mortgage which requires me returning to work. Anyway, watch this space...

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Success...

2010-06-25T06:39:00.000-07:00

Just a quick post to follow up on Harry's behaviour at home and school. Since we stopped him using the computer for 30 mins each day his behaviour has markedly improved - so much so that I fell a bit ashamed that we didn't connect the dots before now! Each day I make a point of seeing Harry's teacher at the end of the day and in front of him we discuss his behaviour and tonight he came home with a smiley stamp for doing an "excellent job in class today". He was ecstatic and was so proud of the additional chart he received on his star chart at home. I have also noticed that now he is wanting to spend more time playing with Mitch and initiates games with all of us. In particular his desire to play with Jack is most remarkable. He was always a doting brother, but now he gets out Jack's toys and then plays with Jack for long periods of time. The other day he called out "Mum, Jack is doing something incredible!" and I was made to come in and see how Jack was playing with one of his toys. Of course the downside of the reduction in computer time is that he needs more help in occupying himself, but this is improving too.

Small steps but important ones. Most encouraging of all is that he has happily coped with the chage in the coimputer usage and it is rare he asks to go on the computer. Most amazing of all last weekend during his allotted time he actually turned the computer off so he could come and play a game of Trouble with Mitch and I :-)

Hugs to all,
Lisa xx

Some good news...

2010-06-15T19:38:00.000-07:00

Just had to post that since we limited his computer usage Harry seems to be doing better in class and has suddenly become very keen to practice his reading. I had to listen to him read his reader 3 times this morning. His teachers have commented that he is trying very hard whicxh is wonderful. And he has gone up a level in his readers and sight words.

Just small steps - but steps forward which is the most important thing of all...

Hugs to all,
Lisa

Reading and all things school...

2010-06-13T20:27:00.000-07:00

As most of you know Mitch and Harry started school this year and are in reception (prep). We decided for them to be in different classes and this has been a good decision for them and us. Any time they are together Harry tends to get worried about what Mitch is doing and then he gets in trouble. An example - once a week they are dropped off at the drop off/ pick up zone and they walk a small distance into their classes. The rest of the week I take then to their classrooms and get them settled for the day. This week we were running a bit late and long story short they arrived just before the bell. Apparently Mitch wanted to dawdle (why am I not surprised) and Harry became frantic trying to get him into class. So much so it took him ages to settle when his lessons started, because he was still worried about Mitch. Anyway, this is all part of the big learning curve of school. And despite their age I want them to become confident with dealing with getting to class without Mummy always being there. It often surprises me when I see other children who are for want of a better term "babied" by their parents at school time. These little ones have their bags unpacked for them, everything put away and all the while they just wait for it to be done for them. Sometimes it is exhausting trying to get the boys to do things for themselves, but I hope this will mean they are self sufficient and confident in the future.

They both enjoy school - but are so different in so many ways. Mitch is a social butterfly and chats with all the "big kids" on the way through the school yard. Everyone seems to know him and it is nothing for three or four kids to stop him for a chat. I can understand why, because he is such a happy little chap and clearly enjoys the company of others. He even has older girls take him out to play with them during the breaks. He is also popular in his class and the other week when he was sick I had several of his classmates ask me with a lot of concern when he would be back. He is loving reading and has just hit that delightful stage where he has realised he can read!

Harry is less confident and struggles to understand why some of the boys in his class won't be his friend. He told me the other day that he asks one little boy every day to be his friend - it was heartbreaking to hear and yet I can understand why other kids sometimes find him too much hard work. However he is extremely loyal and has made friends with several children who are prone to getting picked on and he just doesn't seem to notice their differences. He is finding the class work more difficult and we are working through assessments with a psychologist to see if there are any underlying problems. Currently he is being tested for Autism and ADHD - and to be honest it would not surprise me if a diagnosis was made. BUT that won't change my beautiful Harry-Koala who is such a loving boy and who really wants to do the right thing (if only he could work out what that is).

School has been both wonderful and difficult but I am extremely grateful that at this stage both boys seem to enjoy going there and that their teachers are so perceptive and kind. And I remind myself that not so long ago the thought of them ever reaching school felt impossible...

Well back to my boys,
Hope everyone has a lovely day,
Lisa xx

Not drowning... waving...

2010-06-13T19:39:00.000-07:00

Just a quick post to let you know that despite appearances I have not fallen off the face of the earth and that hopefully today I will get back to post the latest update :-)

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Trying to keep all the balls in the air...

2010-05-29T01:00:00.000-07:00

Doesn't life sometimes seem like an endless juggling act? Mine sure does. Just when I feel organised and that I have things in place, another ball is thrown into the mix. At the moment my struggle is trying to meet all of the needs of my beautiful boys and Kev, whilst maintaining my sanity. I seriously hit the pillow sometimes and wonder how I will get up and do it all again. Some parents seem to maintain their households and activities so seamlessly - whilst I struggle to get us out the door on time. IT does my head in.

I suppose that the problem with being a control freak is that you want EVERYTHING to be under your control and life just ain't like that. Sure, I have mellowed somewhat and have let my standards relax a bit. BUT I wonder why I struggle to get it all done and why I fell so damned tired a lot of the time. I know it isn't realistic, but at the same time I want my home to be clean and tidy, my boys happy and doing well at school and my husband to feel that he is still married to the girl he met. And it just doesn't seem to happen...

At the moment we are facing some behavioural challenges with Harry and whilst they are manageable it is just another ball to juggle. BUT I know we will get there, it is just it is so hard at the moment. I start the day with a plan of how I will cope with his tantrums and by the end of the day I am having worse tantrums than him (or so it seems)!

Well enough of my bleating - time to get off the computer (a glorious time waster) and spend some time with my four beautiful men. I AM so grateful for what I have... it just sometimes seems more than I can handle...

Lisa xx

At last a moment to collect my thoughts...

2010-05-14T21:28:00.001-07:00

Pat and Jason Stevens (and someone's bottom - grin)

Freya with the big boys at Adelaide Zoo

Jack enjoying his cuddles in his sling

Mitch & Harry with bantam eggs collected from Grandad's chickens

Okay okay I can't blame anyone other than myself for being so slack with this blog! After all I find time to muck around on Face book... BUT life is a constant battle to find time to do the things I need to do and want to do. The days often fly by and I find myself wondering just how it happened that my tiny, fragile prem babies are now gorgeous 5 year olds with attitudes to match! So here goes with an update...

Mitch is currently battling pharyngitis and laryngitis and has been home from school for the past 2 days. There is not much of him (weighing in at a hefty 15 kg) and colds and viral illnesses seem to hit him far harder than Harry. He has a croaky voice and a revolting cough, but appears to be on the mend. It could also be that the lure of a birthday party for a friend tomorrow is playing a role in his Lazarus like recovery! He loves school and has taken to reading very well. He tries hard and is popular with his classmates - in fact one of the mums mentioned her daughter was distraught that Mitch wasn't at school and was very worried about him (so cute). He also loves swimming lessons and of course trains. He has really taken a shine to Jackson recently and loves to play with him and tell him stories.

Harry is his usual exuberant self! He is a computer geek and loves nothing more than the opportunity to surf the web (under strict supervision of course). He enjoys school and fortunately has a teacher who is firm but fair. He was making a habit of going to the toilet a lot, so she made a toilet picture for him that he must hand in when he goes to the toilet and he is only able to use this four times a day. He also gets sent on a lot of "important jobs" - the other day he was very upset that I was leaving and his teacher asked him to take a message to another teacher. I have a sneaking suspicion it said "please occupy this annoying five year old" (grin). He has always been terrific with Jack and loves to help in any way (as long as it doesn't interfere with his computer time).

Jackson is growing up TOO fast. He is eating loads of solids - his faves are lamb shanks with mashed potato and mangoes with yoghurt. He is also rather fond of milk arrowroot biscuits. He is trying to crawl but manages to propel himself about the place with a technique akin to a caterpillar. He is such a contented little man and loves people. Wherever we go he attracts attention - and he loves it! Last month we flew with me to Newcastle for one of my best friend's engagement come wedding. You may have seen the footage on TV if you are a rugby fan - she was on the Matty John's show with her hubby Nick and Jason Stevens walked her down the aisle and serenaded her with an Elvis song. It was only a quick visit but we had a lovely time and Jack was spoiled with loads of cuddles.

The boys and I also had a lovely catch up with our dear friend Freya when she made a flying visit from the USA back to SA. We went to see the pandas at the zoo and enjoyed going out for a meal. It was all too quick, but we are looking forward to her next visit :-)

Kev is still working hard. He does a lot of Air Force reserve hours and also works on base at Air Movements. He is still into his games, but family life tends to limit his opportunities to play. As for me I am enjoying the challenges of being a SAHM and am trying (albeit slowly) to get fit and lose some weight (the never ending battle).

Life is very good for the five of us. We are lucky to be surrounded by good friends and family and we are blessed to have each other. Now before I turn into a bad Hallmark greeting card - I must fly...

Hope this find you all happy and well,
Hugs,
Lisa xx

An update (of sorts)...

2010-03-17T02:03:00.000-07:00

Me and my big brother - can you tell I love him to the moon and back?

I can't wait until I can join my big brothers... then watch out!

Wow! It had been ages since I updated the blog! Life just seems to be so busy at the moment, but at the same time I know that I am just not finding the same amount of energy to pursue the things I once did. Must be something to do with having two active 5 year old boys and a very feisty little 5 month old (not sure where he gets his attitude from!?).

Mitch and Harry at Semaphore Beach

Life in the Reid household has been filled with activity. Mitch and Harry are loving school and are enjoying learning to read. When they get home from school it is into a bath, time for readers, tea time, reading eggs (a school endorsed computer program for reading) and then time for bed. Some days it feels like my feet don't hit the ground until I collapse into bed. What keeps me going is the enthusiasm both boys show when it comes to school Sure they get tired and grumpy, but they are making new friends, learning new skills and enjoying being part of something bigger than just our family. It is bittersweet to see them heading off each day - hard to see them growing up so fast and at the same time amazing to see what beautiful young boys they have become. Tonight was the Parent-Teacher conferences and I was pleasantly surprised with how well both boys are doing. Sure they have their challenges, but they are learning and keen to learn... which surely is a wonderful way to be. Mitch's teacher commented that he is doing very well with reading and although he struggles with the fine motor requirements of writing, he is a bright, confident boy who loves to tell stories (the good kind) and is learning how to participate in class. She did acknowledge that he is easily lead and because of his small size sometimes gets dragged into things he doesn't want to participate in, but that he is learning how to assert himself. Harry's teacher commented on how much he likes to help and loves his role as a computer monitor. He is enjoying reading and is doing very well with his sight words, maths and computer studies (of course). I am so grateful that the school and the boys' teachers are doing so much to make their first experience of school such a positive one.

Yum I just love food!

On Master Jackson - he is growing like a weed. Hard to believe that he has only been with us less than 6 months, since he rules the roost. He loves company and if the boys leave the front room, then he calls out for them. The boys are so good with him, although now and then they will tell me to give Jack a feed so he will pipe down during their fave TV shows. His reflux is becoming less of a problem and he has started solids which he loves. After so many struggles with getting the older two to feed, it is hard to believe this little man who positively inhales food off the spoon! He has two teeth which he has used with great effect on Mummy, in fact last time he bit me I yelled so loud it made him cry... so hopefully he has learnt his lesson.

As for Kev and I - somehow we manage to scrape a little time of our own... although not often together! Kev has his regular games night with Steve and as our friends Mick and Jenn have moved to SA, we hope he may manage a few more games nights. I go scrapbooking once a fortnight - and sometimes I actually get something done (other than chat!). I am also in the process of trying to lose some weight and so head off to the gym 3 times a week. It is little wonder that we both seem to fall asleep as soon as we sit down :-)

Life is sweet

BUT life is good. Our boys are happy and well. We are blessed with good family and friends. And we have each other. A girl couldn't ask for more (except perhaps that Sara Lee made French Vanilla ice cream in a low fat form which tasted as good as their sinful version).

Hugs,
Lisa x

I have had enough of school!

2010-02-05T02:50:00.000-08:00

"Mum, I have had enough of school". How many parents have heard those words uttered? Well it only took Mitch a week and he told me that he needed to stay home with me and help look after Jackson. I think the brotherly love may have been a vain attempt to curry favour... but unfortunately for Mitch it didn't work. SO off he went with tears in his eyes complaining all the way until he entered the classroom and found a friend to play with for a while. Then there were more tears last night when he realised he had the same reader as a few days ago! "But Mum I already know EVERYTHING about Xmas!" he told me as large tears rolled off the end of his nose. This school business sure is emotional. Then it was Harry's turn for tears when he forgot his word list and became distraught that he couldn't find it in the classroom. It turned out that "Mr Tidy" had put it back in the teacher's folder at lunchtime! And he did this twice in a row before we worked out what he had done. Thankfully it is now Friday and the boys will have some time to prepare for the coming week. Plenty of relaxing in jarmies is required.

As for Master Jackson he is quite enjoying some Mummy time to himself, but does not appreciate the school drop off and pick up. Cars are definitely not his favourite mode of transport and he has been known to cry for hours as we drive to visit Grandad. Last time on our way home Mitch started hitting Harry because Harry wasn't putting the dummy in Jack's mouth and Jack's crying was interfering with Mitch's DVD viewing. So I yelled at him and started crying. Then poor Kev had to drive the rest of the way home with Mitch, Harry, Jack and myself all crying! So car travel with Jack is a challenge to say the least (groan). Also our little butterball is gaining weight beautifully and now weighs in at a respectable 6.75kg. It is hard to believe, but at 4 months of age Jack weighs almost the same as Mitch weighed at 12 months old!!! And Jack is now rolling which is greeted with much applause by his admiring public (well in our family anyway). So our beautiful baby boy is developing well :-)

Not much else to report - life is hectic but good. I can't believe just how blessed we are and even when I am tearing out my hair at Mitch and Harry's latest antics, still in the back of my mind I marvel at just how lucky we are to have them with us.

Much love to all,
Lisa xx

My brave big boys...

2010-01-26T23:06:00.000-08:00

Mitch and Harry started school today and were so very excited! Poor Harry was so excited he fell over outside the classroom and badly grazed his knee. So day one and we already know where the sick room is! The boys went to their classrooms (they are in different classrooms) and happily joined in the activities. Luckily Kev is on leave for the next 3 days so he was able to help me with settling the boys into school - not that they needed much help! They were busy chatting and drawing as we left and not a tear was shed (not even from Mummy).

This afternoon when I went to collect them they were so excited and happily told me all of the activities of the day. Mitch also proudly announced that he did "a huge poo in the toilet!". This had been a big concern of mine as toilet training is still a work in progress, but the teachers are taking him to the toilet 3 times a day which is wonderful. Nevertheless he has spare clothes just in case.

So the first day of school! What a milestone. Kev commented to me today that just over 5 years ago we could never imagine just how far our boys would come. And even if we had dreamed we would have imagined a special school or profound disabilities... how fortunate we are that our little men have turned out the way they have...

Wishing all Mummies and Daddies with children heading to school a smooth transition into the new school year,
Hugs,
Lisa

Preparing for school...

2010-01-23T15:44:00.000-08:00

We are officially on the countdown for school! Only 3 days to go and Mummy is getting excited. It is well and truly time for the boys to start - they are getting a bit stir crazy with Mummy always needing to look after Jack and are keen to spend time with friends. Don't get me wrong I have made sure to include lots of play dates - but these have been a bit limited. Nevertheless the school holidays have been a lovely time and the boys have had fun.

So not too long until they hoist their school bags onto their backs and head off into the big wide world of school. They will be in seperate classes (this was our decision) and this will be a new thing for them. In kindy they were in different groups but only some of the time - this will be a whole new experience. BUT I think it will be good for them both. They are very different both in appearance and personality and this will be yet another way of stamping their individuality on the world :-)

So as we gently slide into the new school term the world is full of promise and I can't help but think back to those tiny fragile little babies born over 5 years ago who so desperately clung to life. How we hoped and prayed that they would survive and how we had no idea of what impacts prematurity would have on their little bodies. And here they are now ready to face school - dealing with more than their fair share of challenges, but still happy and excited about being "big boys"...

Hoping your New Year is full of excitement too!
Hugs,
Lisa

The trials and tribulations of Jackson Kevin Reid

2010-01-19T23:33:00.000-08:00

First of all I must apologise for the distinct lack of blogging on my part! In my defence I must say that the past few months since our little man arrived have been full on. Partly because Jackson has had settling issues and partly because the workload associated with a new baby and two very active five year olds has totally overwhelmed me. I must confess to being taken by surprise at just how tired I am and I have spent many nights worrying about how I will manage (as if there is any other option). Don't get me wrong I love being a mum, it is simply the logistics of organising the older boys for kindy whilst our latest addition screams blue murder which have had me often on the verge of tears. You see I like order and control (surprise, surprise I hear you say) and Jackson has thrown my life into chaos! I adore my little man with every fibre of my being, but it is very hard when he cries for hours and nothing I do seems to help.

Luckily (if you can call it luck) I have found some wonderful community resources and we ended up going to Torrens House after a particularly fraught weekend in which Jack cried for 16 hours straight. Torrens House is a live-in facility which provides support for parents of babies with a variety of issues including feeding, settling and behavioural problems. The Torrens House' nursing staff are so wonderful that words can't even express it adequately. They take frazzled families and gradually reinstill confidence in handling and caring for their precious babies. The staff there recognised his symptoms as being Reflux based and helped me work on settling him whilst also providing medical support. It would be wonderful to say that now he sleeps like a dream, but that isn't always the case... however he does usually sleep overnight for 3-6 hours between feeds and does sleep for short periods during the day. Which so so much better than the 15 minute cat naps he took day and night before.

And our precious little man is now much happier in himself and often enjoys laying on the floor madly kicking away at his toys and smiling at everyone which is a joy to behold. He loves his big brothers and they in turn dote on him, although at times Mitch has introduced him as "my brother who cries all of the time"! And now that he isn't so overtired and in pain we are able to see his personality shining through.

As for Mitch and Harry - only one more week until they start school! It is hard to believe that the tiny, fragile babies we brought home after 5 long months in hospital are now the big boys preparing for this next exciting stage. Their clothes are labelled and their lunch boxes are ready to be packed with food... all that remains is for Mummy to face their first day at school. BUT I will be brave!

So that is what has been happening over the past few months - lots of activity and a steep learning curve, but as we face the coming year I am excited at what 2010 will bring.

Much love to all,
Lisa xx

Mitch & Harry's big day... and Robin & Rachel's too...

2009-12-30T19:30:00.000-08:00

Mitch and Harry were very fortunate to be part of their uncle's (my cousin's) wedding yesterday. It was a lovely wedding and despite the blazing heat the bridal party looked wonderful. Rachel the bride looked serene and beautiful and Robin just glowed with happiness.

Many months ago the boys were asked to participate as page boys and so yesterday they were dressed in their finery and helped celebrate this special occasion. When we initially explained the concept of a wedding to the boys and their role, Mitch became quite distraught and it was only after a big cuddle that he confessed "But Mummy I don't want to marry Rachel. I want to marry you!". After reassuring him that Rachel was not seeking his hand in marriage he agreed to be a page boy.

It took a lot of convincing for them to get dressed - especially as long-sleeved white shirts and bow ties are not their standard outfits - but the effort was worth it. And after posing for the photos they were whisked away to Maccas by Auntie Pat (our only Angel) and home to recuperate from the stress of behaving for so long!

As for Master Jackson he only dozed on and off but was a consummate reception guest (he even had his own tiny place card)...

Sorry it has been so long between posts - promise to post again soon :-)
Wishing each and every one of you a joyous New Year,
Lisa xx

2009-11-12T23:28:00.000-08:00

Today I turned 41!

Morning started with Kev sleeping in and then taking off in a hurry - and forgot to say "happy birthday". Then one of my dear friends came over and brought a cake and the boys helped her decorate it - which was lovely. The hot weather really limited us from doing much, so we watched the boys play and tried to settle Jackson.

Poor Jack had a rough day - which coincided with a visit from the CYH nurse who was fabulous! She took ages with us and thinks that I am overfeeding him because I have such a huge supply and because he seems to want to feed so much. She said this also is happening at the same time as the notorious 6 weeks stage when babies are becoming a lot more alert and are often unsettled... couple that with the heat and it explains our recent rough patch. So was advised to move him into his cot - a lot more air circulating about than with a basinette, stretch out feeds to 3 hourly as he is clearly not dehydrated (he demonstrated this by weeing on her shirt) and propping up the cot to help with his reflux. At present (even with the basinette propped up) you can actually here the reflux and he starts coughing and choking. Poor little mite has just cried and cried today. Best thing is that the nurse will be back on Monday to check on our progress and will if necessary book us into a day stay program.

So after all of this and a 39 degree day with two increasingly grumpy boys I have demanded take away for tea.

And what better way to celebrate (?) getting older than a few Maxine cartoons :-)

Hugs

And life goes on...

2009-11-07T04:45:00.000-08:00

Our precious baby boy is almost 6 weeks old and it is hard to imagine life without him. He certainly has made his presence known over the past few days as he prefers to be continually held... which is okay when your doting Grandpa is visiting from QLD, but difficult when Mummy & Daddy have chores to do and two big brothers demand some attention too! Nevertheless he is a delight :-)

We have just had the most wonderful week with Kev's Mum & Dad visiting from QLD. They rented a cabin close by and took the boys out and about most days. And just to make it even better the boys had sleepovers with them too. This gave Kev & I some much needed alone time - although a certain young man didn't give us much time (grin). The boys adored having Norm & Iris here and today they have both commented how much they love them. It is really special to see such a bond developing between them. And norm must go down as the doting grandparent of the year!!! Jackson only needed to squawk and Grandpa was there for a cuddle and some kind words. We may need to send Jackson up in a postpack for a visit every 2 weeks so Norm can get his baby fix :-)

Apart from that the big news is that boys are starting some school visits in preparation for next year. They had their first visit this week and were so excited! The older school children really took them under their wing and it was lovely to see both boys confidentally playing in the playground with their new found friends. So next thing is to buy their uniforms and school bags in preparation for the big transition.

As for me - I am looking forward to a visit to a craft show tomorrow with my friend Mandy - some retail therapy should be just the ticket.

Love to all,
Lisa xx

My beautiful boys

2009-10-23T05:29:00.000-07:00

Mitch and Harry adore their little brother as these pictures clearly show. The only danger is that Jackson could be loved to death (grin). They are so protective of him and are so proud too. It really is a very special time for our family.

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Computer genius

2009-10-23T05:25:00.000-07:00

In amongst the constant nappy changes, breast feeding and no sleep I manage to spend some time scrapping - thanks Kev :-)

Here is my latest layout of Harrison with the computer - he really enjoys spending time playing his alphabet and number games...

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Photos...

2009-10-12T01:02:00.000-07:00

Just had to share some of our recent photos...

At home with three boys...

2009-10-07T16:44:00.000-07:00

Life is good!

Mitch and Harry have a mild cold, but are otherwise well and are so kind and gentle with their little brother. Mitch keeps asking to kiss Jackson's hands - and give him "very gentle cuddles Mum". He is needing a bit more Mummy time so I have started asking him to bring a book into the bedroom and snuggle up next to me whilst I feed Jackson. That way I can read his book and talk with him, whilst he who must be obeyed has a feed. Mitch has been having angry outbursts about minor issues - I think partly because he is tired (coughing a lot at night), but also because everything has changed in his little world. I certainly won't tolerate bad behaviour, but I understand it. So we are going back to basics with the visual schedule, early bed times and lots of reinforcement of good behaviour. He is still my sweet Mickle Pickle - and I have to stop myself from laughing as he stomps off to his room and slams the door! So reminiscent of my own childhood behaviour, when I would go and throw myself on the bed after arguing with Mum and Dad. The only thing was that being not the most coordinated of people I would often roll off the bed and hit the floor (grin).

Harry has coped with this huge change a lot better than I thought he would - he is actually coping better than Mitch. He is extremely protective of Jackson and runs to tell me each time he hears Jackson cry. He is also extremely understanding of the time I need to spend with Jackson. This surprised me because he has always been extremely dependent on me - but it seems my Harry Koala is growing up! He is happiest when he is helping and loves to help me with Jackson. And sweetest of all he gave Jackson his favourite little toy puppy - but Jackson "asked" him to take care of it for him until he was a bit bigger. He still has his upsets - but no where near the meltdowns we experienced 6 months ago. With a few calm words he seems to be able to settle himself down and tell me what is wrong. This morning for example he ran sobbing into our room - it turned out that Daddy had told him he couldn't wear a certain t-shirt because I had laid it out for Mitch (the night before). There was much male angst in the Reid household for a few minutes until I realised that Harrison remembered I had told him that he was going to wear two t-shirts (one long sleeved and one short sleeved) and he thought he was supposed to wear Mitch's one! A moment later he was happily getting dressed and headed off to child care.

I am so proud of my older boys and their loving attitude to the little interloper in their midst :-) I am sure the three boys will be best of friends as they grow up.

Best news of all is that last night Jackson slept for long periods and I managed to get some sleep - the world sure is a brighter place when you feel rested :-)

Love to all,
Lisa xx

Home with our sweet baby boy...

2009-10-05T04:28:00.001-07:00

Today I finally came home with our sweet baby boy - it was so wonderful to just walk out of the hospital with him in our arms. He has settled straight into his routine of feeding, cuddling and sleeping - fingers crossed he manages to sleep well overnight! Last night he insisted on feeding every hour for 5 hours - so today I am really tired.

Just happy to be at home with my boys. Mitch kept running up and giving me cuddles. He told me at least 10 times this afternoon that he missed me and Harry just seemed to want to hold onto me for a lot of the evening. It is a huge adjustment for both boys, but I am hoping that with the extra time Kev has on leave we will be able to establish a routine which works for us all...

Well time for another feed - love to all,
Lisa xx

Introducing...

2009-09-30T13:18:00.001-07:00

Jackson Kevin Reid
Born at 1.52 pm by c-section
Weighing 3.2 kg/ 7lb 3 oz
Length 50cm
Family overjoyed at the safe arrival of our long awaited beautiful boy!
Mum doing well and still on cloud nine.
Dad at home recovering...

Heading into hospital...

2009-09-27T16:04:00.000-07:00

Well after a long (thankfully) and eventful (not so thankfully) pregnancy I am heading into hospital today for two days of work up including steroid shots before our little man is delivered on Wednesday at 37 weeks. This pregnancy has been SO different and I am hopeful that our little man will only have a short hospital stay, although I realise that he will be in special care for a few days until his sugar levels stabilise (due to my gestational diabetes). I have been so grateful for the support I have received from friends and family, even though as my Dad says "this is the longest pregnancy in history!". I can't wait to share some photos of our precious surprise bundle with you all.

Hugs,
Lisa

Only four more sleeps to go...

2009-09-26T01:28:00.001-07:00

... until we meet our baby boy.

The bags are packed...
The food is in the freezer...
Child care is organised...
Now I just want it to be Wednesday alreay :-)

Thank you to everyone for their love and support,
Hugs,
Lisa xx

Some scrapbook layouts of the September Challenge on S4L

2009-09-22T22:05:00.001-07:00

These are my latest layouts - there was a September Challenge on S4L and I managed to complete each one. My favourite is of Harry wearing his Ben 10 Jarmies from Auntie Mary & Uncle Malcolm - thanks to Great Auntie Wendy for the fabulous photo :-)

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Coming up to 36 weeks and only 10 days to go!

2009-09-19T22:46:00.000-07:00

It is hard to believe that we only have 10 days until we meet our beautiful baby boy. The nursery is all organised - had to swap our change table because the drawers were a bit funny, but the store were terrific and did a swap with a discount for our troubles yesterday. Now the change table is filled with tiny clothes. Kev fitted the kiddy board onto the pram - this means that Mitch will be able to just jump on and off the board when he gets tired. He would have fitted into a toddler seat, but we thought that a little more independence would be better for his ego :-)

The freezer is filled with meals - including the boys' favourites - Tuna pasta and Bolognaise sauce. Even Boadie our dog doesn't miss out because I have cooked and frozen dog stew for her. The house is as tidy as it is going to get - I mean the windows need a wash and sure the carpets could do with a shampoo - but I know my limits (at least I do at the moment!).

I have even found some time to be creative with some scrapbooking and card making. I don't know how much time I will get to do those things once the baby arrives! And as you can see the spring cleaning and organisation extends to the blog - I have tidied it up and changed the template - not much of a change, but I like it.

Well time for me to enjoy some solitude as Kev and the boys are out for a few hours. I may even get some more scrapbooking done.

Hope you have a great week,
Hugs,
Lisa xx

A sketch site for those of you who love scrapbooking...

2009-09-18T17:10:00.000-07:00

One of the talented ladies on Scrapbooking 4 Less creates her own scrapbooking sketches - these are a great source of inspiration.

Check out her blog...
Jan's Sketches

Hugs,
Lisa xx

35 weeks and an overnight hospital stay...

2009-09-15T22:11:00.000-07:00

Well I reached 35 weeks yesterday and just to make the day exciting I ended up in hospital with a hypertensive episode. I have been feeling completely exhausted for the past week and felt quite strange so did my BP at home and it was 180/110. Luckily my local GP was able to see me where my BP was 170/110. So off to the hospital for some monitoring - and they decided to keep me overnight for some monitoring. No signs of pre-eclampsia, although I have sowllen feet, hands and face... but my blood and urine tests are all clear. The baby is doing well and still moving about a lot. Was discharged this morning to my great relief - since I hadn't expected to be admitted I had no toiletries etc and felt yucky. So back home for a shower and then fell promptly asleep on the lounge for almost 2 hours.

So I now only have 1 week and 5 days before admission for steroids and then delivery in 2 weeks (on Sept 30th). I am so grateful that our precious baby has had this extra time in utero - so far 10 long weeks more than his big brothers. BUT I am looking forward to meeting him and finally feeling a bit better.

On top of all of this Mitch had his ear surgery just over a week ago - this was because the cartilage never properly developed in his ears and as a result his ears folded every time he put glasses on. Now an adorable 5 year old with an elastic strap on his glasses is very cute - but fast forward to when he enters that awkward teenage stage and we decided it would be best for him to have an op now. He really was incredibly brave - althought the stitches which cover the back of both ears must be uncomfortable to say nothing of the bandage he had to wear all of the time for a week! Now he is just having to wear the bandage each night.

And then... last weekend we finally had the boys' fifth birthday party at Hungry Jacks. It was a hot, dry windy day, but everyone braved the day and made it extremely special for Mitch and Harry. I was totally exhausted (and really just wanted to crawl into bed), but two beautiful little boys needed to celebrate turning 5 years old...

Mmmm... now I realise why I am feeling so very tired - maybe I should just climb into bed and stay there for the next 2 weeks...

Hugs,
Lisa

PS - please forgive the quality of some of the photos - discovered 2 little sticky fingerprints on the lens of my camera - seems one of the boys fancies himself as a photographer.

HUSBAND'S REVENGE - a very funny clip

2009-09-06T05:37:00.000-07:00

Scrap the Boys

2009-09-04T19:54:00.000-07:00

Check out this scrapping challenge site I came across the other day - it is for boys only layouts and some of the work is truly inspiring!

Scrap the Boys

I even entered my Nutella layout. I am thinking of entering a layout in the September challenge too. So check it out and place a vote for your favourite layout.

Hugs,
Lisa xx

33 weeks today...

2009-09-01T01:19:00.000-07:00

I saw our OBGYN today and she informed me that Baby Reid is actually 2.5 kg (estimated) NOT 3.5 kg as the radiographer had previously told us. This is a huge relief (no pun intended) and means that our not so little man is growing at a steady rate and while he is big, he is not unusually big for his gestation (considering my Diabetes). Hopefully now I will be able to get some sleep. The past few days have been stressful as I was really worried that this sudden weight gain would be impacting on his health, but the doctor reassured me that our baby appears to be doing well.

The plan is still to deliver him on Sept 30th at 37 weeks and I will be given steroid shots for 2 days prior to help with his lungs. Because of the Diabetes he will need a stay in Special Care for breathing, feeding and probably jaundice, but hopefully he will be able to come home when I am discharged.

Taking a deep breath now and trying to enjoy this last month as we await the arrival of our beautiful baby boy,

Hugs,
Lisa

One of my layouts...

2009-08-30T03:15:00.000-07:00

I love this layout of Mitch - very simple, but captures the concentration of learning to ride. The boys' Grandad was the one who finally got them to understand how to ride - even though I had to go inside because I was getting so worried they would fall or be psychologically harmed. Harrison in particular loves to ride and insists on doing so rain, hail or snow if we got to Grandad's place.

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Our not so little boy...

2009-08-27T17:24:00.000-07:00

Yesterday we went for a follow up ultrasound to check on my ovarian cyst (which is being removed post c-section) and our precious baby boy. According to the technician the baby weighs approx 3.5 kg. This is on the upper limits of normal for 32 weeks and could be related to my Diabetes. My BP was also up, not surprising I suppose since I heard I am having such a big baby!!! So BP meds and Diabetes meds were adjusted. The good news is that our (not so) little man seems to be doing well.

The facial 3D shot is slightly obscured by his umbi cord and the fact he wouldn't cooperate (why doesn't that surprise me).

Hugs,
Lisa xx

I finally managed to do some scrapbooking!

2009-08-26T19:20:00.000-07:00

Yes finally I have managed to get this addled brain working - I must be well and truly feeling better! Last night I made two simple layouts for the boys' albums. The plan was always to get their albums up to date before the baby arrives... but the best laid schemes of mice and men often go askew (as the saying goes). So I am just grateful that I can enjoy this creative outlet again :-)

Each layout has the letter from Santa the boys received on Xmas morning...

31 weeks pregnant - only 6 weeks to go

2009-08-19T02:46:00.000-07:00

Well I am now 31 weeks pregnant (and one day) and we have only 6 weeks to go to my c-section! I am still finding it hard to believe that we will have a new baby in our home in a month and a half. Poor Kev is no doubt sick of me saying this and telling him every time the baby kicks. This is all just so new and after the worries of the earlier weeks it is lovely to realise how far we have come.

I saw our OBGYN yesterday and she commented on how well I have coped despite the medical issues (if only she knew) and how she had serious doubts in the early days whether I would make it past 28 weeks. She listened to the baby's heartbeat and did my measurements and was pleased with my progress. I LOVE this OBGYN she NEVER weighs you and is very matter of fact about everything and at the same time reassuring. I suppose another bit of good news is that I haven't gained much weight with this pregnancy (lets face it I had a lot onboard already) and so I am hoping after the baby arrives I may not need to drastically change my diet from my current Diabetic one. The only thing I have been craving is pasta! The serve you can have for a meal on this particular diet is tiny and I have been dreaming of fettucine puttanesca and a glass or two of shiraz!

Apart from that I am slowly recovering from the flu - not unwell, just really tired at times. The boys are also showing signs of fatigue with the extra child care sessions, but at this stage it can't be helped. When Kev goes on paternity leave we are going to reduce their child care hours right down so they get more of their beloved jarmie days. And then Kev's folks will be coming down from QLD for a week - so I am sure this will give the boys the energy boost they need :-)

Thank you to everyone who has been so kind to us - for the meals cooked, the child minding given and most of all for just being there. We truly appreciate it.

Much love,
Lisa

Mitch & Harry are 5 years old!

2009-08-15T18:19:00.000-07:00

Today our beautiful boys turn 5 years old!

Hard to believe that this time 5 years ago two tiny struggling babies came into the world. Mitch born first weighing 660g and Harry born 1 minute later weighing 840g. And it was the beginning of a long struggle for survival.

Today two very excited little boys climbed into bed at 7am to tell Mummy & Daddy that they were 5 years old and "big boys".

We love you beautiful boys,
Mummy & Daddy

Swine flu...

2009-08-10T01:49:00.001-07:00

Well it is official! After feeling absolutely dreadful with aches, pains, headaches, low grade temps, coughs and runny nose I went to the local ED as I couldn't get in to see my GP. They sent me to the major tertiary hospital because they were concerned about my BP and some swelling in my hands and feet. Ended up spending 3 hours in labour and delivery and just bfore I left they did a nasal swab. Today I booked an emergency appointment to see my GP as I still wasn't feeling any better - and he confirmed that I have Swine Flu. So I have started on Tamiflu.

This has all been extremely stressful (as you can imagine). BUT the benefits of the medications are widely reported to outweigh the risks. One fortunate aspect for me has been that despite my symptoms my temperature has never gone above 38.1 and that my lungs are clear - the two most significant risks for mother and unborn baby being very high temps and secondary bacterial infections. The other is that I am a fair way along with the pregnancy - 30 weeks tomorrow and therefore this should not affect the baby's development in any way.

Spent a fair bit of time on the phone with the hospital registrar today and he was very reassuring. So now it just a matter of getting over this illness.

Here is a link for anyone who is interested on the current CDC guidelines for managing Swine Flu in pregnancy...

http://www.cdc.gov/h1n1flu/clinician_pregnant.htm

Hugs,
Lisa

29 weeks today!!!

2009-08-04T02:04:00.000-07:00

Today we reached 29 weeks with no sign of Baby Reid arriving soon. He is certainly making his presence felt and loves to perform his gymnastic's routine especially at night. It is such a comforting feeling to know he is moving about - although I imagine as I get closer to 37 weeks it may be more forceful. Today I packed his bag for the hospital - I honestly am not really sure what to pack as the boys came so early and it was at least 3 months before they could fit into any clothes. But I have packed his little clothes and some odds and ends. In the next week or so I will pack mine - must get some nighties which are modest. Kev is still scarred by the vision of a mother (not me) in NICU who was rather large and wore sleeveless nighties and no bras. Let's just say it didn't leave much to the imagination!

Apart from that we are plodding along. The boys and I have another cold - nothing serious, but when you can't take anything stronger than a Panadol and you spend half the night heading to the toilet it can be rather fatiguing. Today I did my chores before midday and ended up falling asleep for several hours. Not really feeling any better now, but if I spend the evening in bed I definitely won't sleep tonight.

Well, here's hoping that the next few weeks pass easily - only 8 more weeks to go :-)

Hugs,
Lisa xx

28 weeks...

2009-07-28T03:12:00.000-07:00

Just a little post to let you know that I am now 28 weeks pregnant and at this stage everything looks to be going well. Okay, well I could do without the high blood pressure and diabetes and all of the meds...BUT the baby is growing well, moving a lot and shows no signs of arriving early. I saw the OBGYN today and she has scheduled me for a c-section on Sept 30th - when I will be 37 weeks. The reasons for delivering a bit earlier and by c-section are mainly due to my existing pregnancy issues and the fact that if they let nature take its course, then there could be increased risks for the baby (and me). At this stage it is predicted that our little baby boy will go to Special care for anywhere up to 3 days while they stabilise his blood sugar levels, but hopefully when I go home so will he! The hospital even offers a boarding room (in the ward) where I take care of myself, but can stay for several days if our baby needs extra time. During the c-section the doctors are also going to remove my right ovary with the troublesome cyst and perform a tubal ligation ( we are happy with 3 beautiful boys). So I imagine that I will be staying in hospital for about 7 days - 2 days before the c-section and 5 days after. BUT if I make a speedy recovery I am sure they will happily discharge me earlier :-)

We are organised and are now just counting down the weeks. The nursery is decorated and ready for its new occupant. I have managed to purchase lots of cute tiny clothes (probably too much but who cares!). And last weekend I went out with my beautiful friend Pat and my beautiful sister in law Kelly and purchased a divine red pram and a change table. So it feels like we are as organised as we can be at this stage. Those of you who know me well won't be at all surprised to learn that I even have two lists stuck to the nursery door with things I need to bring to hospital for me and for our baby boy. Now here's hoping he is just as organised (grin).

Hugs to all,
Lisa xx

My latest scrapping layouts...

2009-07-20T05:21:00.000-07:00

A couple of weekends ago I was lucky enought to go away with a group of girlfriends for the weekend. There was lots of eating, lots of shopping and a little scrapbooking thrown in for good measure. Here are some of the layouts I finished...

And here is the close up of the paper piecing Koala...

Good News!!!

2009-07-16T02:42:00.000-07:00

Went for the follow up cervical scan yesterday and saw the Prof of the unit who actually performed the scan and then chatted with me afterwards. He said my cervix looks completely normal! This could be because I am on the pessaries or more likely because the previous measurements were more pessemistic. He recommended staying on the pessaries and light duties for the next 5 weeks. He doesn't need to see me for 2 weeks. This time I actually asked the measurements and at rest I was 4.5cm and bearing down I measured 4.15cm.

Feel like a giant weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I am always cautious about being overly confident with this pregnancy, but for the moment things are good :-)

Now I am enjoying the nesting phase of preparing for our precious bundle. Have the baby's room all organised with the tiny clothes we have put away (note to self more shopping required). And Kev put up the cot from Mum & Dad's place. Thanks to Mandy for an adorable Pooh Bear quilt and the loan of a lovely basinette. Next big purchase a pram (still can't decide which one) and a change table!

Hugs,
Lisa xx

2009-07-07T21:58:00.000-07:00

Yesterday I had a 25 week ultrasound where the placenta, cord flow and cervical length were checked. As soon as they called in the radiologist I realised something was amiss. It turns out that my cervix has an odd appearance and is slightly shortened. Not exactly the news I want to hear. So after a review by the OBGYN I have been started on nightly pessaries and advised to have limited driving and no heavy housework or lifting. I am due to go back in one week for a reassessment.

At this stage we have organised for the boys to be dropped off to child care in the morning by Kev and then picked up in the evening - 3-4 days a week. I have cancelled any long drives to friends and am planning on taking it very easy until the next appointment. BUT I feel so guilty to load this onto the boys and Kevin. And I am a neat freak - so wonder how I will cope without cleaning up!!!

Here is our latest picture of our baby boy - every time the sonographer tried to take a photo he put his hands over his face...

24 weeks and 2 days and counting...

2009-07-02T03:59:00.000-07:00

Life sure has a funny way of catching you unawares. Well it does for me anyway. Apart from a few hiccups I have been coping well with the pregnancy and haven't dwelled overly on the frightening start the boys had to life. BUT this weeks has been a time for tears and worry. Mitch and Harry were born at 24 weeks and 6 days and all of a sudden I have been keenly aware of reaching that milestone with this baby. Added to this Kev has been working lots of odd shifts - coming home at 2.30 am some days and working weekends and so I suppose I have had more time alone with my thoughts, which isn't always a good thing.

But in amongst all of this there has been a bright side. I have been motivated to make visual schedules for the boys to assist them (and us) in streamlining their routines. Visual schedules are typically used for children with learning difficulties, speech disorders or behavioural issues. They may be used to specify acceptable behaviours, specific daily routines or even break down a single activity into small steps (ie going to the toilet). In Mitch & Harry's case it was first suggested at kindy that they may find a visual schedule useful as they were unable to recall the activities required each morning at kindy. After 3 terms of telling them each morning what they had to do, it became apparent that they were really struggling with the planning required to get ready for kindy. One of the teachers made a simple schedule and Harry in particular flourished. He now rushes to his visual schedule and tells me what he has to do - it has been a wonderful way for him to become more independent. So I finally buckled down this weeks and revised the boys' daily schedules and made a weekly one too. We are now just trailling it to see how it goes and whether it helps (or hinders)...but so far so good.

This is the weekly schedule which tells the boys what activities the family has planned throughout the week - like swimming, meeting friends, kindy, child care and quiet time...

This is the daily schedule which reminds the boys about their "jobs" - clearing the table, getting dressed, toiletting etc...

Next thing on the agenda is moving some of our furniture to Dad's place - that way we can start to set up the nursery and get the boys' bunk bed organised. I will of course be in my element - cleaning, tidying and organising :-)

Love to all,
Lisa xx

23 weeks and counting...

2009-06-23T01:54:00.000-07:00

I am now 23 weeks (the boys were born at 24.6 weeks) and today I had my first appointment with the high risk OBGYN and the midwife clinic at the major tertiary hospital close to us. The doctor was very matter of fact and told me that the baby will be delivered by c-section. She won't risk inducing me and she doesn't want to attempt a trial of labour. I must confess I wasn't particularly surprised. She pointed out that with my hypertension and gestational diabetes I am already considered a high risk pregnancy and add to that the extreme premature delivery of the boys she will be seeing me every two weeks from now on. In addition she told me that because I was diagnosed with diabetes so early on in the pregnancy she considers me to have type 2 diabetes, rather than gestational diabetets - this means that after the delivery of the baby the condition will remain - that was a bit of a shock, but I can't do anything about it except stick to a relatively strict diet (at this stage). Baby Reid appears to be growing well and there was a strong heart beat. So now it is just biding time and hoping this little one will stay put for as long as possible.

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Now I am 22 weeks...

2009-06-18T05:25:00.000-07:00

Everything has settled down since my last post. My BP is well managed with the three tablets a day and my BSLs are stable to, so no insulin at this stage. The best part of this stage is enjoying those strong kicks every night when I settle down to watch TV :-)

Mitch & Harry are fascinated by what is happening and today I tried to explain how the baby was fed. Mitch needed to check out my belly button and then looked at his own and wanted to know where the "hose" (umbilical cord) had gone. Mitch felt the baby kick for the first time tonight and was so excited. He put his mouth down on my tummy and said "My name is Mitchell and I am your brother. I will look after you". It was just so beautiful. Harrison is pleased he will be sitting next to the baby in the car (we had new booster seats put in) and he tells me he will "play with the baby and give him milk".

We are slowly getting plans in place for the room swap - the boys will be sharing a room with lowline bunks courtesy of their Great Uncle John. And the baby will have Mitch's old room. So in the next few weeks I need to find homes for two single beds and a lounge - no rest for the wicked...

Not much else to report - just happy that everything is stable :-)

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Appointments, appointments, appointments...

2009-06-04T02:06:00.001-07:00

Lots of appointments this week - saw diabetic educator, obstetrician, had 2 ultrasounds and then today I saw a physician who specialises in pregnancy. He will be monitoring my blood sugar levels and blood pressure throughout the pregnancy. He confirmed that our baby will need to be born in a hospital with a NICU - and will probably require some time there. He has also referred me to a high risk obstetrician to take over the care of my pregnancy. It is all still a bit overwhelming and I feel sad that in all probability we will be in NICU again, but I keep reminding myself that whatever ensures the health of our precious baby is important. I am now doing finger pricks 4-5 times a day for sugar levels - which is not fun, but not too bad really. I just wish I could get some energy, but am told this is the combination of my age, the diabetes, hypertension, the medications and being the mum of two very active 4 year olds. Keeping my fingers crossed that the pregnancy continues on for another 18 weeks.

Thank you to everyone for your lovely messages,
Hugs,
Lisa xx

Our 20 week scan...

2009-06-01T01:38:00.001-07:00

This is our beautiful baby boy (confirmed today). He is growing well and the ultrasound went without a hitch.

I heard from the diabetic educator today and see her on Wednesday to collect my BSL machine and start taking regular blood sugar levels.

My BP is still high, but not dangerously so - so the doctors are monitoring it.

Now just have to get an appointment to see the Pregnancy physician and organise to see a high risk obstetrician.

Thank you to everyone for their messages of support,
Love Lisa xx

A hospital stay...

2009-05-30T05:48:00.001-07:00

Well the past few weeks I have felt increasinly tired and have had headaches. The OBGYN has noted my blood pressure is high, but was waiting to speak with a physician. Then I started having palpitations. At first I tried to convince myself it was just anxiety, but it persisted and after 4 days I went to the GP who diagnosed ectopic beats and commented that my blood pressure was too high. Long story short... he spoke with the physician and I was admitted to hospital yesterday morning. I am now on 3 tablets a day for my BP which seems to be helping and at this stage there doesn't appear to be an evidence of pre-eclampsia (probably too early) and so I have what is termed essential hypertension. In addition my blood tests revealed gestational diabetes - so I am on a restricted diet and BSL monitoring until the baby is born.

I was coping well with all of this information until the doctor mentioned I would probably need to go to a large tertiary hospital for the birth of the baby so he can be admitted to NICU. Just those words were enough - so last night was not a restful one. All I can hope at this early stage is that my BP remains well controlled and that I am able to stabilise my BSLs.

I keep reminding myself this is a different pregnancy and that last time there were different complications. I suppose I had just hoped for a complication free pregnancy. So lots of appointments this week! BUT the best appointment will be on Monday when Kev and I get to see our baby on ultrasound again... I can't wait.

Lisa xx

My latest layout...

2009-05-21T06:13:00.000-07:00

This is my layout for the S4L Sketch challenge. I love these photos of Mitch and his Grandpa.

17 weeks and 1 day...

2009-05-13T00:02:00.001-07:00

Well another week has passed and another week closer to seeing our precious baby. It seems all the more real now that I can feel the baby kicking so often. So the bets are on for either an AFL player (who will be disowned if he plays for Port) or a tap dancer (who wouldn't want a son like Hugh Jackman... one second thoughts my dreams about Hugh are hardly maternal, so maybe not). The good news is that my blood pressure is down a little and while the doctor says it needs watching, it isn't an immediate concern. So it is just a matter of enjoying this pregnancy :-)

The boys are both doing well, although poor Mitch had a very rough weekend with high temps and some kind of viral illness. There isn't much of him to begin with, so when he doesn't eat for almost 2 days he looks like a little waif. They are both enjoying kindy and they also go to child care 2-3 afternoons a week - which gives me time to rest. I consider myself very fortunate that we can afford to do this and that we have easy access to child care in our area.

I must be feeling better (than I was in the first trimester) because I am back to my organising self and have tidied my craft room and almost catalogued all of our photo CDs. Kev laughs when Harry tries to organise me and I get frustrated - 'karma" is the term he uses!

The other good news is that we seem to have found a solution to Harry's distress in noisy venues. He tends to become quite distraught with any loud noise, particularly in a crowd setting, but I found some kid's hearing protection and when he wears them he has no difficulty at all. This meant he really enjoyed the last concert we went to and spent time dancing around and singing. As he gets older his Sensory Issues may improve, but it is also hoped that he will learn to manage them. So finding this simple technique has been a big step forward for our beautiful boy :-)

Well, not much else to tell... life is good. The boys are happy and all is well in our little corner of the world.

Hugs,
Lisa xx

16 weeks and one day!

2009-05-06T03:36:00.001-07:00

So today I had another ultrasound. I was going to say "we" - but really it was just me... unless you count the baby... then it would be "we"...

As you can see my thought processes are truly muddled at the moment. For those smart alecs who wonder what has changed - I got lost twice today - once finding the RAAF base and once finding a major street in the city. And then at lunch time I completely upended my plate of food all over the table, even Pat was amazed at the flair with which I dumped the Chinese food so delicately. Nevertheless it was a newly cleaned table, so I shovelled it back onto the plate and ate it regardless (clearly I have lost none of my class!).

Anyway, what was I saying? Aaah that's right - the ultrasound. Why oh why do the radiology staff insist on a full bladder and then run late? I sat there doing St Vitus' dance for 35 mins, until I couldn't stand it anymore and I asked if I was going to be seen soon. The receptionist clearly noticed my distress (it could have been the jig I was doing) and told me I could empty my bladder "a little". Yeah right lady! You try and empty a pregnant bladder just a little! Anyway, eventually I was seen and the radiographer was apologetic for the wait, so it would have been churlish to be grumpy. And besides she was already doing the scan and showing me latest images of Baby Reid. Suddenly the wait and the rupturing bladder didn't matter a bit - there was our precious baby. And a bit of extra news, it appears (although it will have to be confirmed with the next scan) that Baby Reid is a little boy. It was wonderful to see him swimming about and I could have watched him for hours. But it was onto the task at hand, which was to check on my cyst which thankfully hasn't grown and just needs observing. I sang all the way home, much to amazement of a few motorists.

Apart from that life goes on as usual. The boys are maturing and while there is still a lot of work to do, they are little helpers and continually say that they love us - and that makes all of the work worthwhile. Tomorrow we are meeting with the kindy director to discuss schooling options, so hopefully soon we will have a firm plan in place for where the boys are heading school wise.

It is amazing to think that just over 5 years ago we had resigned ourselves to being childless and now here we are expecting no. 3. Life sure has an amazing way of surprising you.

Here's hoping your life is filled with delightful surprises,
Lisa xx

13 1/2 weeks and feeling fine...

2009-04-17T01:28:00.001-07:00

Okay well that may be a slight exaggeration! I am 13 1/2 weeks and no longer vomiting, but I can still sleep up a storm! As Harry kindly pointed out I have "really fat boobies" and a "cuddle tummy" - and am that stage where you don't look really pregnant, but certainly feel it. Kev and I are SLOWLY coming to terms with this huge life change and we are starting to relax a little now I am past the most risky period of the pregnancy.

Last week we had the ultrasound and finally today we were given the collated results of the ultrasound and blood tests which indicate that we are at a low risk for Downs Syndrome and several other chromosomal abnormalities. This is particularly relevant at my age (40 years old for God's sake!!!) and we were previously warned that over 2/3 of these scans come back as high risk in my age group. Because these are screening tests they can't rule out problems all together, but it does offer reassurance that everything is going well.

So now I am cruising into the second trimester. Still mildly stunned to be taking this journey again, but excited nevertheless. I find myself wandering around baby departments and I am fixated on tiny Bond's suits. So far I have resisted the urge to buy anything - but when I start... watch out!!!

Thank you to everyone for the love and support they have shown Kev, the boys and I. It means more than you can know.

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Presenting our baby...

2009-04-08T05:25:00.000-07:00

Well today was the big day of our Nuchal Scan - the one where screening is undertaken for various abnormalities. There were a couple of glitches on the way. Our GP filled out the wrong form and a new one had to be sourced... and then we found out that I should have had the screening blood test a week ago, instead of today as advised by the Midwife at the local hospital. This meant that the Doctor in attendance could only give us a preliminary report. BUT she said that everything appears to be "moving in the right direction" and that there were no obvious abnormalities found. It was quite amazing to see our baby moving about on the screen and at one stage it rested its head onto its arm as if the whole ultrasound process was far to exhausting. So now we have to wait for the blood results which will hopefully come withing a week.

When we got home I showed the boys the ultrasound picture and Mitch was very excited asking if that was his baby, Harry asked to play the computer (grin)

Hope every one has a happy Easter - I know we will,
Hugs,
Lisa

11 weeks and one day and counting...

2009-03-31T17:50:00.000-07:00

Well we have reached the 11 week mark - where according to many of the text books the morning sickness and fatigue should disappear. Now if someone could just tell my body that! Everyone has been telling me that I look well, but I feel fat, frumpy and tired - such an attractive combination.I am still trying to get to the gym 3 days a week - but this week I haven't slept well and so decided to have a day off.

On a brighter note the boys started child care yesterday. They are walked over from kindy by one of the teachers and stay at child care until I collect them at 3.30pm. This is happening twice a week. The boys loved their first day and Mitch cried when we came to take them home. So far so good...

We are now on the countdown for the nuchal scan which is next Wednesday. This pregnancy still seems quite unreal to Kev and myself and so we are looking forward to seeing our baby on the monitor. The day afterwards we see our OBGYN to discuss whether to have an Amnio to rule out chromosomal abnormalities or neural tube defects. I must admit to being quite nervous. While I never pictured myself being pregnant again, now that I am I want this pregnancy to be a long and healthy one.

Not much else to report.
Hope everyone is looking forward to Easter - I know I am :-)

Hugs,
Lisa

10 weeks today!

2009-03-24T04:17:00.000-07:00

Today we reached the 10 week mark. I must admit that the fatigue and nausea leave me in no doubt that I am pregnant - but in a funny way that is reassuring too. The boys keep asking Mummy why she "bomits" and Harry has decided it is because the baby is bouncing on my tummy. Speaking of Harry he was asking what the baby's name will be and I told him we didn't know yet. He gave me one of those looks kids get and rolled his eyes and said "No Mummy - when she is born I will just say "Hi my name is Harry" and she will tell me her name".

So now the countdown is on for the Nuchal scan where they look for indicators for Down's Syndrome and Neural Tube defects and possibly the sex of the baby. 2 more weeks for that scan and then hopefully some more news.

Thanks to everyone for their messages of support. And I apologise in advance for what will (hopefully) be a very long pregnancy :-)

Hugs,
Lisa

Guess what!!???

2009-03-16T02:51:00.000-07:00

As many of our friends and family would know by now we recently had some unexpected news. News that is all honesty we never expected or thought possible. It turns out that the Reid family will have a new addition in October! Now that you have picked yourself up off the floor I will give you a little background. Kev and I knew that we would face a hard time trying to conceive, so very early on in our relationship we sought medical intervention. It was only (approx) 10 years later that we finally had our beautiful boys Mitch & Harry... and that was only after years of IVF and many set backs. So after the boys difficult birth and the problems they experienced especially in the early months we made the decision late last year to thaw (and thus destroy) the two embryos we had in storage. In all honesty we couldn't see how we would cope with another difficult pregnancy.

Well life sometimes has a way of catching you off guard and caught off guard we were! I had been feeling very tired and nauseated for over 3 weeks and had decided it couldn't go on. Initially I thought it was simply the fatigue that comes with parenting two little livewires. And for some unknown reason I decided to do a home pregnancy test, just so I could say to the doctors that "no I am NOT pregnant". I have done so many of these tests and was waiting for the usual one line (negative) when all of a sudden there were two lines. I just stood in the kitchen saying some non-maternal words over and over. So sure was I that this must be a mistake I dropped the boys off with a neighbour and went to see our GP. And he said "well you ARE pregnant". A friend's sister who saw me said I didn't look very happy, but honestly I was in shock. BUT not as much shock as poor Kev who welcomed me home completely oblivious to the test and was greeted by the news "we are pregnant". I joke that it took 3 days for the colour to return to his face (and probably mine too).

So here we are less than 2 weeks down the track and 9 weeks pregnant. We had a scan the next day and there was our little miracle wriggling about on the screen. The reality has only set in because of this blasted morning sickness that never goes away. BUT we are both excited and amazed and terrified too...

So there's our news :-)

Hugs,
Lisa xx

100 things to experience...

2009-02-26T02:16:00.000-08:00

I saw this on another blog and thought I would give it a try. Must be hitting 40 making me nostalgic and at the same time excited for what the future holds. Those things I have experienced are in bold type...

1. Started your own blog
2. Slept under the stars
3. Played in a band - at Marryatville High School. Poor
Mr Johnson had to teach me the xylophone... he is still receiving counselling!
4. Visited Hawaii
5. Watched a meteor shower
6. Given more than you can afford to charity - sad isn't it
7. Been to Disneyland - no, but it is on my list of things to do
8. Climbed a mountain - yes, well I think it was a moutain
in the Flinders Ranges. If it wasn't it was a bloody big hill!
9. Held a praying mantis - yes at the boys' kindy
10. Sang a solo - only in the shower
11. Bungee jumped - no way
12. Visited Paris - and it was wonderful...
13. Watched a lightening storm at sea - yes on the way
from the mainland to Kangaroo Island. Everyopne else was throwing up and I
was taking photos!
14. Taught yourself an art from scratch - does scrapping
count??
15. Adopted a child
16. Had food poisoning - or maybe it was alcohol poisoning
(grin)
17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty - I would LOVE to go to the USA
18. Grown your own vegetables - yes a number of times
19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France - yes, and I cried
20. Slept on an overnight train - a number of times with
my mum, heading to Melbourne for the footy
21. Had a pillow fight
22. Hitch hiked - not my brightest move
23. Taken a sick day when you're not ill - mental health
day of course
24. Built a snow fort
25. Held a lamb
26. Gone skinny dipping - enough said about that
27. Run a Marathon - only at school
28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice - with my mum and dad
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Watched a sunrise or sunset
31. Hit a home run - I totally suck at sport
32. Been on a cruise - loved it!!!
33. Seen Niagara Falls in person
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
35. Seen an Amish community
36. Taught yourself a new language - does 4 year old count? (grin)
37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied - must admit
money isn't a prime focus of our lives...
38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person - yes! And it
was much smaller than I imagined.
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Seen Michelangelos David - yes with my mum and dad - a
breathtaking work of art
41. Sung karaoke
42. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt
43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant - no, but I must do this one day
44. Visited Africa
45. Walked on a beach by moonlight
46. Been transported in an ambulance - as a nurse
47. Had your portrait painted - think I might crack the canvas :-)
48. Gone deep sea fishing
49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person
50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris - all by
myself
51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling - snorkelling :)
52. Kissed in the rain
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Been in a movie
56. Visited the Great Wall of China
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Visited Russia
60. Served at a soup kitchen
61. Sold Girl Scout Cookies
62. Gone whale watching - not deliberately, but they were
near the coast at Middleton
63. Got flowers for no reason
64. Donated blood, platelets or plasma - no, and I should!
65. Gone sky diving
66. Visited a Nazi Concentration Camp
67. Bounced a check
68. Flown in a helicopter - yes when I was younger with my
brother
69. Saved a favorite childhood toy - I have my panda that
Auntie Vicky gave me when I was little - now Mitch takes him to bed
70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial
71. Eaten Caviar - mmmmm
72. Pieced a quilt - nope
73. Stood in Times Square
74. Toured the Everglades
75. Been fired from a job - thanks Maccas!@#%@
76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London
77. Broken a bone
78. Been on a speeding motorcycle - yes up to Normanville -
it was exhilarating!
79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person
80. Published a book
81. Visited the Vatican
82. Bought a brand new car
83. Walked in Jerusalem
84. Had your picture in the newspaper - yes with my boys
85. Read the entire Bible
86. Visited the White House
87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating - does a
fish count?
88. Had chickenpox
89. Saved someone's life
90. Sat on a jury
91. Met someone famous - well sort of... Brett Maher
92. Joined a book club
93. Lost a loved one - yes
94. Had a baby
95. Seen the Alamo in person
96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake
97. Been involved in a law suit
98. Owned a cell phone
99. Been stung by a bee
100.Read an entire book in one day -yes, but that was
before I had kids!!!

The mysteries of a four year old mind...

2009-02-13T16:17:00.000-08:00

I am sure all parents can relate to the challenges of raising a four year old. The never ending questions. The need to push the boundaries just that bit further. Going from joyful to sobbing in a few minutes (and that is just Mum!). Being four must be hard at times. You want to be independent and at the same time the world is a confusing and scary place at times, so you need Mum or Dad close by (just in case). There are SO many things to explore and learn. BUT being the parent of two four year olds is an adventure all of its own...

Why is it that I can create a gourmet meal one night and it is devoured with gusto and the next time I prepare it both boys eye it warily wondering if I am trying to poison them?

Why can they both open the car doors when I don't want them to, but the moment I ask them to open the car door they suddenly can't?

Why do they try to negotiate all of the time?
Harry - Mummy I wanna go outside
Mummy - No. Daddy is mowing the lawn and it is dangerous
Harry - But I want to
Mummy - Not now - very soon
Harry - But I want to...(which is followed by screaming and stomping of feet)
Mummy - I said no! Now go to your room.
Harry - (unintelligible ranting and screaming)

And why do they have to say everything that fleetingly crosses their mind? From 6.30am until 8.00pm I hear every single thought of Harry's, until I feel my brain will explode!

Now if someone has the answers please share - I am sure it would make life a whole lot easier :-)

Sending lots of love,
Lisa xx

Sometimes parenthood is just plain tough...

2009-02-04T23:46:00.000-08:00

I love being a Mum. I love all the little rituals the boys, Kev and I have created. I love those cuddles that come any time day or night (okay so I don't like being woken up, but the cuddles are still precious). Being a Mum is far more than I could have hoped for and far more than I ever dreamed...

BUT... sometimes I feel like I am drowning. One more diagnosis. One more bit of news to digest. One more activity to work on. I sometimes wonder how I can fit it all in and still survive. Don't get me wrong, I am fully aware of how fortunate we are to have Mitch & Harry. They are precious beyond all measure. BUT... I am perpetually on the edge of collapse and I hate feeling like I can't do it all. I am so fortunate to be surrounded and supported by good family and friends and a beautiful husband, but I sometimes feel like I am trying to accomplish the impossible.

On one hand I have Mitch who is relatively easy going, very affectionate and in a lot of ways a lot younger than his brother. He just coasts along and takes life as it comes. But he is still not toilet trained and he has started telling me it makes him sad. My heart just breaks when I hear this, after all none of this is his fault, his poor tone and lack of sensation means that it happens before he realises it. He struggles with his motor skills and it is a rare day he comes home from kindy without a grazed knee.

And then I have Harry, my complicated little guy. Who needs me so much ALL of the time that I feel worn out. If I go outside to the shed where our computer is, he stands crying at the door asking me to come back. He seems to seek my constant approval, but at the same time is the one who is more wilful and inclined to push the boundaries. His meltdowns are something to behold - he can maintain a screaming pitch for over 30 mins and gets worked up to such a state that there is nothing I can do to settle him.

And at the end of a day where Harry has screamed continuously for an hour, and Mitchell has soiled himself yet again, I sometimes wonder whether I am capable of dealing with another day. But like all parents I just hope and pray tomorrow will be a better day.

Life goes on...

2009-01-27T02:41:00.000-08:00

Well it has been simply ages since I last blogged. The season's festivties and then lots of socialising, as well as the evils of Facebook have kept me away from the blog. So there is a bit to catch up on...

Mitch & Harry are heading back to Kindy four days a week (2 3/4 hours a day). They are VERY excited and looking forward to seeing their friends and the teachers. We did the all important lunch box, drink bottle and school bag purchase and they are ready to go. I will miss them and our leisurely mornings - but this is all part of the wonderful journey ahead of them.

I haven't managed to do much craft, but am planning to head away with some of my girls friends for a weekend of scrapping and relaxing. I can't wait!!! Why is it that as mums and women we often feel guilty about taking time for ourselves? A friend recently had a birthday party and invited just her female friends and it was so much fun, that we have promised to do it again soon.

Kev has been away at CANCON - a convention for Wargamers. He stayed with our friend Avi and came back tired, but very happy. These special times away really help make our time together special. Besides at the moment, I really wouldn't fancy the long drive to Canberra with two small boys and having Kev preoccupied with games the whole time we were away.

So while Kev was away we went to the beach and what fun we had. The boys and I swam and walked along the beach. And Grandad helped them perfect their cycling - they were riding approx 1.2-1.6 km each time and asked to ride at least twice a day! We enjoyed fish and chips, icecreams and relaxing. It was a terrific holiday and it was lovely to share it with our family.

And so life is slowly getting back to normal after the Xmas break. Kev is back at work. The boys are heading to kindy. And I am looking forward to another year of being a wife and mum.

Hope everyone had a great Xmas time with family & friends,
Hugs,
Lisa

Help I am addicted to Facebook

2009-01-04T04:27:00.000-08:00

Well it has to happen...
Well I suppose strictly speaking it DIDN'T have to happen...
But it was inevitable!

I discovered Facebook and I am addicted!
I love the quick updates about friends.
I love keeping in contact with my friends and family easily.
And I love wasting time playing all of the games.

So now I am addicted.
The biggest tragedy in my life?
When I couldn't access Facebook due to maintenance.
I mean... how dare they! I wanted to beat my cousin at Word Twist and they dare schedule maintenance!!! Just who do they think they are???

So there you are... I have confessed my little secret.
Now I have to fly I am heading to Facebook to play another game :-)

Hugs,
Lisa xx

Tagged again!!! Thanks Aprilyn (grin)

2008-12-01T02:13:00.000-08:00

This is the Crazy Eights tag courtesy of my friend Aprilyn...

8 things I'm obsessed with right now
1. Gardening - it is my stress reliever
2. Scrapbooking - enough said
3. Going to the park with the boys - while they still think playing with Mummy is fun
4. Spending time with good friends - not enough time in the day
5. My new outdoor setting - finally I have one!!!
6. My new camera - I think Kev may need to get another job with all of these expenses
7. Having an organised home - well as organised as it can be with two four year olds
(grin)
8. Spending time with my family

8 words or phrases I use daily
1. In a moment
2. Harrison stop hitting your brother
3. Mitchell stop teasing your brother
4. Toilet time
5. Okay boys time to go
6. Go to bed
7. I said go to bed
8. If you don't go to bed...

8 TV Shows I love to watch
1. Desperate housewives (great trashy viewing)
2. Find my family (a real tear jerker)
3. Louis Theroux presentS (great docos)
4. Bullshit! By Penn & Teller (thought provoking tv)
5. Aircrash investigation (what can I say? I AM a ghoul)
6.
7.
8.

8 things I did yesterday
1. washing/ ironing
2. gardening
3. cleaned the back of the car... where I spilt a bottle of soy sauce!!!
4. organised the boys
5. organised Kev (or micro-managed him as he prefers to say)
6. entertained guests
7. cleaned up after everyone left
8. collapsed in an exhausted heap

8 of my favorite places to eat
1. Cafe Nova - local place with great food
2. My Dad's place - where the wine is ALWAYS plentiful!
3. at the park... so the boys can play
4. at home with family and friends
5. anywhere Thai!
6. anywhere Indian!
7. anywhere Italian
8. anywhere that I don't have to cook - all Mums would agree with this!

8 things I'm looking forward to
1. spending Xmas with my boys and Kev
2. watching the boys learn about the world and make friends
3. spending more time with Kev - there never seems to be enough time
4. seeing my Dad's new home at the beach - watch out Grandad you are going to
have lots of visits!
5. seeing Kev's mum and dad when we can
6. growing old with Kev
7. being a mum - it is more than I could have hoped for...
8. spending time with friends and family

8 things on my wish list
1. lose weight
2. get more exercise and stay motivated
3. learn to be more tolerant... maybe by the time I am 80???
4. learn photography and take some classes
5. a holiday with the girls - as many as possible!
6. help both boys with their therapy
7. get my photo albums up to date
8. get my garden looking nice

Merry Xmas

2008-11-20T03:30:00.001-08:00

Send your own ElfYourself eCards

I've been tagged!

2008-11-14T05:11:00.000-08:00

I have been tagged by Joanne.
You should check out her beautiful blog which is full of wonderful scrapbooking layouts ...

The Rules:
1. Link to the person who tagged you
2. Post the rules on your blog.
3. List 6 random things about yourself.
4. Tag 6 people at the end of your post.
5. Let each person know they have been tagged and leave a comment on their blog.

So, here are the 6 random things about me:
1. I love pancakes with maple syrup (but only real maple syrup)
2. I love to clean (its a curse I know)
3. I live in the town where a lot of the television series McLeod's Daughter's was
filmed (and no Pat I can't send you Aaron Jeffreys)
4. I love weeding (the results last longer than house cleaning!)
5. I have blue eyes with yellow rings around the pupils
6. I have a brand new digital SLR camera (is it wrong to love an inanimate object?)

The six people I tag are: Shelley, Aprilyn, Rhonda, Toni, Hayley & Lauren

Understanding language disorders...

2008-11-12T04:16:00.000-08:00

As many of you may know both Mitch & Harry have been diagnosed with severe language disorders and are considered in the first percentile for their speech and language (meaning out of 100 children - 99 children would score higher than them). This is very hard for many people to understand because both boys are chatty, bright and responsive. Even doctors have questioned the diagnosis... which sometimes make it hard for us to know what to believe. But the reality is that while both boys are beautiful, loving and intelligent they do have difficulty with both expressive and receptive speech.

Here is a brief description of language disorders in children by Dr McDowell a leading developmental paediatrician...
(you may want to turn the volume up)

Here is the same doctor discussing whether language disorders can be cured...

And how inadequate speech services are within Australia...

And finally what this can mean when the child grows up...

While it may seem a potentially grim diagnosis - neither Kevin or myself view it as such. We are extremely fortunate that the boys' language disorder has been diagnosed so early and that despite their difficulties they are very happy to talk (and talk and talk). We view our role as helping the boys to develop strategies to assist them with their language. Although the boys do very well themselves. Mitch typically inserts phrases he knows will garner favourable feedback... "you are my BEST friend" and "I love you so much". And Harry talks about things he understands like numbers, the alphabet and colours - he even types his name out on the computer now. These are the ways they have already learnt to cope when their language lets them down. Best of all they are happy boys which we hope will continue as they face the challenges ahead.

Phew, now if you have managed to follow all of this my thanks :-)
Hugs,
Lisa

Turning 40 and other milestones...

2008-11-10T16:07:00.000-08:00

Well I am on the countdown to my fortieth birthday. It is hard to believe that I am actually going to be forty! In some ways I still feel like I am in my twenties, until I look in a mirror and see an older, more wrinkled face looking back at me. There is certainly a freedom in growing older. I worry a lot less about what people think. I am kinder to myself and hopefully to others. I am less judgemental of others. And I allow myself time to smell the roses. Of course the aches a pains which weren't there 20 years ago remind me now and then that my body has aged.... but I have to say that I like growing older.

Life is good. Mitch & Harry are growing into beautiful boys with loving hearts. They are making new friends and enjoying kindy. And even the hurdles we face with both of them don't seem insurmountable. Kev is enjoying his work. He is a loving husband, a doting father and a good provider. Our home is comfortable and welcoming. And we have good family and friends.

The one hardship is that I don't have my beautiful Mum to share this time. The pain of her death never really goes away. I know how much she would have loved to be part of the family gatherings and how she would have loved to spend time with her three grandsons. Harry in particular talks about his Gran often. I realise he wouldn't have a particularly strong memory of her, but he gets comfort from seeing photos of her and talking to me about his Gran. Everything in my life has been touched in some small way by my Mum and this is what gives me comfort. I feel blessed to have had such a beautiful Mum.

So life is good. I look forward to the next forty years! And as I look of the photo of me as a little girl I wish I could say to her that life may get tough at times, but there are enough sweet moments to make the journey worthwhile.

Hoping everyone has a great week,
With lots of love,
Lisa

My latest layout...

2008-11-03T01:14:00.000-08:00

I just wanted to share my latest layout. I love this photo - it was taken at Port Vincent as Kev walked Mitch, Harry and Jay back to the holiday house. I entered it in the Camelot Forum October challenge and won a $20 voucher to spend at the store!

Life is very relaxed at the moment. Both boys are enjoying kindy and Harry seems to be settling in (which is a relief). The garden is looking lovely. And the house is (relatively) tidy. It doesn't take much to keep me happy (grin).

Hope you are having a good week too,
Hugs,
Lisa

Camelot - lets go shopping...

2008-10-26T17:51:00.000-07:00

By chance a few months ago I came across an online store and forum for one of my favourite scrapbooking stores in SA - CAMELOT! This shop has to be seen to be believed. Room after room jam-packed with everything you could possibly want. And just when you think there couldn't possibly be anymore you venture outside to a huge shed with row after row of paper shelves with every imaginable kind of card stock and patterned paper. It truly is like an Aladdin's cave!

Anyway, one night I was surfing the net and found their forum and so (of course) I joined. The forum is still very new and quite small. BUT the girls are lovely and welcoming and the moderators are clearly passionate about scrapbooking.

So if you are looking for somewhere to do a bit of retail therapy or if you want to find a forum to share ideas about scrapbooking and card making then why not visit CAMELOT.

More scrapbooking and an brief update...

2008-10-24T15:52:00.000-07:00

Here is my latest layout. Each year just after the boys' birthdays I write them a brief note to include in their album. They each have an album for each year of their lives. Kev has pointed out if I keep scrapping at the same rate the boys will need a semi-trailer to take their albums when they leave home (grin).

Speaking of the boys - the first 2 weeks of kindy have been a steep learning curve for the boys and I. They have clearly found the effort of getting out the door by 8.30am each morning a bit tiring (they like long, leisurely breakfasts). A few times they have cried and asked to stay home, but we have headed to kindy anyway and then within a few minutes they are excitedly playing with their little friends. Well I should say Mitchell is playing with his little friends, who are all girls by the way. Harry doesn't seem that interested in playing with the other children and prefers solitary activities like puzzles, the computer or drawing. This is something that the kindy teachers and I are watching closely in case it becomes an issue. They are at kindy four mornings a week and on three of those mornings I go straight to the gym afterwards for 1/2 an hour. At the moment it is a big struggle because I am SO unfit, but the ladies at Curves are lovely and I hope to lose some weight and improve my overall fitness.

Apart from that I have found a renewed passion for gardening and am out in the garden most nights - weeding, hand watering or generally tidying up. The garden is certainly showing the fruits of my efforts and it looks very pretty despite the lack of rain. Goodness knows how it will cope with summer. I have found that my time gardening is very therapeutic and that coupled with my exercise my mental well-being has improved markedly. Who would have guessed I just needed some sheer torture followed by solitude to feel happy (grin)?

Well I better sign off now,
Hoping everyone has a lovely weekend,
Lisa

My latest layout...

2008-10-18T06:29:00.000-07:00

Just wanted to share my latest layout.
Very simple, but I like it :-)

Microwaves and toys and other important lessons for four year olds...

2008-09-29T04:26:00.000-07:00

Mitch and Harry recently had a very important lesson. I decided to check the emails(our computer is in the shed) and both boys seemed to be settled watching TV. So out I went and within 5 minutes I heard a frantic shout from Mitchell and crying from Harrison. So I rushed inside only to discover the kitchen was filled with smoke and the microwave seemed to be on fire. Closer investigation revealed that one of the boys had placed a Thomas the Tank Engine Helicopter toy with a large magnet on it inside the microwave and hit autostart. Apparently the toy had exploded into flames and the door had shot open. There were still flames coming out of the toy when I came inside - so I had to use tongs to dump it into a sink full of water. Harrison was hysterical because he had tried to take the toy out and had burnt his finger. Luckily he didn't get the toy out of the microwave otherwise I imagine the kitchen bench would have been burnt or worse. Once the emergency had passed I made the boys throw their toy into the rubbush. Somehow the microwave survived - a little scorched, but still functional. Harrison was so traumatised that a week later he still keeps saying he is sorry. Mitchell on the other hand seems quite oblivious to the danger and excitedly recalls "lots of smoke and flames Mummy".

I thought the day couldn't get any worse and after tidying up the kitchen and airing out the house we went outside for some fresh air. I popped inside (I should have learnt my lesson shouldn't I?) to get a drink for the boys. I heard Mitchell say "Look at all the buzzy bees" and then Harrison started crying. Once again I dropped everything and rushed out to discover that Mitchell had found the fly catcher filled with dead flies and containing an awful smelling liquid and had thrown it at Harrison. Poor Harrison was covered in dead flies and fly attractant liquid and was sobbing hysterically. So off to the bath for both boys! And a strong drink was the order of the day for Mummy!

I am left wondering what they will get up to next...

Another layout

2008-09-27T05:02:00.000-07:00

This is my layout of Bonnie

Complicated...

2008-09-21T05:16:00.000-07:00

My latest scrapping layout...

And here is the journalling. If you click on it it will enlarge so you can read it...

My beautiful Bonnie...

2008-09-20T04:33:00.000-07:00

A few weeks ago my beautiful Bonnie had to be put down. She had lost an alarming amount of weight in under two weeks and appeared distressed and in pain. The Vet was extremely kind and offered that we could do all kinds of tests to try and determine the problem. But as I looked at my beautiful Bonnie's dear little face I couldn't stand the though of putting her through all of that just to keep her a little bit longer. So it was with a heavy heart that I asked for her to be euthanised. I stayed with her and told her how much I loved her and how she would soon be playing with Patrich and Missy. And then in a moment she was gone. Kev buried her under our grape vine and we planted my favourite rose (Angel Face) in her memory.

Bonnie was 15 years old and a much loved member of our family.

She had been with me through my first marriage. My divorce. My marriage to Kev and the birth of our boys. She was a loyal friend and a trusted confidant.

IF IT SHOULD BE

If it should be that I grow weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle cannot be won.

You will be sad, I understand.
Don't let your grief then stay your hand.
For this day, more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.

We've had so many happy years.
What is to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer so;
The time has come -- please let me go.

Take me where my need they'll tend,
And please stay with me till the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me,
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time that you will see
The kindness that you did for me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Please do not grieve -- it must be you
Who had this painful thing to do.
We've been so close, we two, these years;
Don't let your heart hold back its tears.

--- Anonymous ---

The Nutella Thief...

2008-09-20T04:28:00.000-07:00

I have recently noticed we seem to be going through more Nutella than usual. Here is a likely culprit!

I went for a shower and returned to the kitchen to discover that Harrison had pushed a dining chair into the kitchen, climbed into the pantry and retrieved the jar of Nutella for Mitchell...

Kindy

2008-08-29T05:38:00.000-07:00

Well Thursday was the boys' (and Mummy's) big day. The first day at Kindy. We turned up with lots of other parents and children and waited for the doors to open. Harry was so excited and introduced himself to everyone there. Mitch just wanted to open his lunch box, despite the fact he had eaten one Weetbix and three slices of toast with Nutella for breakfast!

The Kindy Director met us at the door and introduced the boys and I to their SSO who will work with the two of them over the next 5 weeks. Melissa is about my age and the boys warmed to her straight away. Before I left Harry was drawing and Mitch was hammering into a pin board with Melissa.

I headed out the door and off to my Mums' group. I was SO proud of my boys that there were no tears shed... I just couldn't believe how far they have come and I spent the morning smiling.

When I returned to the Kindy the teachers were pleased to report that both boys had joined in all of the activities, had played well with the other children and had virtually ignored each other (which is apparently unusual for twins). The boys were so excited and asked to come back the next day.

It was such a sweet moment to savour. That despite all of the hurdles they have faced and all of the issues raised at the last team meeting, both boys are so sociable and confident. It gives me a feeling of accomplishment that Kev and I have done a good job preparing them for kindy/ school. While always mindful of future issues, it is lovely to take a breather and just celebrate the special little boys that Mitch & Harry have become...

Hugs,
Lisa

A big step...

2008-08-20T01:43:00.000-07:00

Dear all,
Just received a letter last week to let us know that Mitch & Harry have been accepted into Elsie Ey Kindergarten for their pre-entry program. They will attend 2 3/4 hours once a week for 5 weeks and then start fulltime kindy which is 3 hours four days a week in the following term. I can't believe where the time has gone. It only seems a heartbeat ago that these tiny babies were struggling for survival and now they are heading out into the world. They are very excited! Mummy is a bit nervous. And Daddy is worried about Mummy.

The great thing is that they will have a support worker with them each day for pre-entry - to assist them with focussing on tasks, toiletting and generally learning the kindy routine. This was organised by the Principal prior to the team meeting last month as she felt the boys would benefit from additional support (and is at no additional cost to us).

When they start at kindy they will be evaluated to ascertain wheher they will qualify for the Possum Room - a room where they have one teacher to 8 students with special needs. Part of me wants this not to be necessary, but if this makes their lives a little easier then Kev & I are both very supportive of this option.

So think of me next Thursday when I drop the boys off for their first session. I am sure there will be tears. BUT I have a sneaking suspicion that they will be mine.

Hugs,
Lisa

Happy Birthday Mitch & Harry

2008-08-17T09:45:00.000-07:00

Our beautiful boys turned four on August 16th.

This was the first year that they really understood what was happening and we had to do a countdown of how many sleeps there were until the big day. This year was extra special because they got to spend it with Nana & Grandpa from Queensland. They had a lovely party at Hungry Jacks and even though the weather was dreadful the boys and their little friends had a wonderful time.

Next week is their cousin Liam's birthday and they are now counting down to that party! Then the three boys will share a combined family party at Gran & Grandad's place.

Here are some photos from their big day...

Harry and his dinosaur from Nana & Grandpa

Mitch and his special construction blocks from Nana & Grandpa

The boys enjoy the icing for their birthday cupcakes

Mitch has cuddles with Grandpa

Yummy birthday cup cakes

Harry enjoyed his 5 cup cakes!

Cuddles with Nana

Thank you to everyone who wished the boys a happy birthday :-)
Hugs,
Lisa

Thank you...

2008-08-02T00:36:00.000-07:00

Just a quick note to say thank you to everyone who has contacted us over the past week. We feel truly blessed to be surrounded by so much love.

The boys are coming up with new phrases all of the time...

Mitch's latest - "Look you guys, just stop picking on me okay"
In response to being tickled

Harry's latest - "Mummy I am a baby banana and bananas have cheeks that need to be kissed"

And my favourite expression?
"muddlepops" - muddy puddles (grin)

Hugs,
Lisa